In need of some good solid advice for my situation

[Oniama93]

Hello everyone i am new to this forum and this is my first post.After searching for many online dating advice forums i chose this one..A little about my background..I am a Single Mom of a 2yr old .And i am 33 and i am in school and also looking for a job.I meet this amazing guy online through a mutual friend and we hit it off from the get go.At the time when we did i was still living with my ex.But i since moved on from all that and i am now back home living with family at present.And before you ask the guy is 30 so he is def my age.Prob is he lives 20 hrs away from me.Now we have dated but i recently broke it off with him because of my feelings and the fact he lives so far away.We both wanna be with each other but he cannot move here till November do to owing some bills he cannot just dip out on.And he wants to be certain that we have enough funds to start our lives together as a couple.Very level headed and mature thinking on both our parts and i would do anything to be with him even if it means waiting 9 months or more for us to be together in person and starting our lives together.My moving to where he is,would never happen and is not an option.Because i have moved from my hometown 2 times in the past to be with a man and it always ended badly.So this time i deserve for the man to come to me.That may sound selfish but its not.I am a Single Mom and refuse to bounce my child around from place to place for my own needs.My child deserves a stable home life.I feel i can give her that here in my hometown.And i am certain that if things work out with this guy that he and i can give her a good stable life.I do things just fine on my own.But this man is perfect for me and has showed ALOT of interest in me and wants to be there for my child and me.Here is my problem.I keep having this ex pop up out of the blue everytime i am happy with someone and he tells me that while i am with someone he wants to be with me and sucks that i am with someone.But once i am single he changes his tune now this ex of mine i dated him off and on for 7 yrs and we never did anything sexual he is always not able to make up his mind.When i am with someone he wants me.When i am single he just wants to be my friend.And he also has an ex he always runs to and that ex he runs to she is the reason he and i never worked out.I still have feelings for this ex and he is local.But the man i want to be with and work things out with and have a future with lives 20 hours away.I am very confused and really need some advice.Should i stay single and wait 9 months for the man of my dreams and hopefully have my own home and give my daughter a stable living environment and to see her Mom happy and in love with a great man.Or do i go towards the ex whom seems to play head games?I may have answered my own problem here.But please if anyone can shed some light on this it would be greatly appreciated.I am sorry if the post is confusing i am very confused right now.

[Harrowdown]

Hiya, please use paragraphs next time. It's just easier to read

 

I'd say that you should forget about your ex and "wait for the guy of your dreams". But you already knew that.

[Oniama93]

Hello!!I am so sorry i did not use paragraphs i was in a rush.Yes it is and i will def do that next time thank you

 

 

I did already know that i am just needing some insight..He wants to be with me and date while we wait the 9 months till we can be together.And get our own place when he moves here.

[Oniama93]

Can someone please reply.....

[Dixi]

I'm not sure what you are exactly asking, I thought it was on who to choose! If so forget the 7yr on & off ex, he sounds like a total waste of space. Then reading your second post I'm guessing maybe you are asking if you should have a LDR with the 20 hour away guy until he can move! Well considering you say he is the man of your dreams then I don't see why not, depends if you can handle a LDR because they are not always easy, that said waiting 9 months will still require commitment and can be testing if you really want him! Maybe it's a case of talking to each other and deciding what you are both comfortable with. Not sure if that's much help!