Elsewhere Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 I'm 30 and have not had a relationship that lasted more than few months! Many guys are attracted to me but noone seems to stick around... I feel like maybe I just focus on men who walk away more than those who like me... Every time I get rejected it's like the guy's value just tripled in my eyes... but when he still liked me I liked him only so so. Why can't I just like those who deserve it Does anyone have an advice???
Helis4life Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 You sound like a standard woman. Think you need a guy who's Motto in life is treat em mean keep em keen. Keep searching, you'll find the perfect ******* for you soon. GL
JA0371 Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 Did u have an emotionally unavailable parent? I used to bE like this until I realized I was trying to recreate that relationship I wish I had with my dad through unavailable partners. It's a weird psychological hang up..but once I realized my pattern I started making healthier choices...
Elsewhere Posted July 14, 2012 Author Posted July 14, 2012 Actually my dad is not really emotionally unavailable, but definitely not easy going... That might be it...
Natasha24 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I don't have any advice, but you're not alone. I'm the exact same way. I want what I can't have, and I just get annoyed by guys who actually like me.
Pineapplejuice Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Sounds familiar to me. It's a typically female characteristic thingy.
Sportster2005 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I'm 30 and have not had a relationship that lasted more than few months! Many guys are attracted to me but noone seems to stick around... I feel like maybe I just focus on men who walk away more than those who like me... Every time I get rejected it's like the guy's value just tripled in my eyes... but when he still liked me I liked him only so so. Why can't I just like those who deserve it Does anyone have an advice??? Try Google. Might at least point you in the right direction. It might be as simple as enjoying the pursuit. Once caught you get bored. And then when they leave it creates drama. Hope you find a solution. Could be a lonely life ahead.
itsallgrand Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I'm 30 and have not had a relationship that lasted more than few months! Many guys are attracted to me but noone seems to stick around... I feel like maybe I just focus on men who walk away more than those who like me... Every time I get rejected it's like the guy's value just tripled in my eyes... but when he still liked me I liked him only so so. Why can't I just like those who deserve it Does anyone have an advice??? You could try going against the grain and staying with the feelings when you are with someone who actually likes you and doesn't bail. But, chances could be, if you don't figure out this on your own first you will tend to attract the wrong types of guys to begin with anyways. And running away when a guy starts to get close to you. Could be a deep fear of getting close to a man. Though I don't experience a man's value tripling in my eyes when he rejects me, I've had a problem with once a man starts to get close to me, my feelings cooling and desire to run in the opposite direction. It has had to do with a fear of getting close. A defense mechanism. The emotions shut down. But now that I am aware of this, and some hard runs, I know that if I stick through that feeling it is temporary and usually followed by a rush of new emotion. I guess you have some personal work to get to. What is going on beneath the surface when all this is happening? Can you look past - transcend a little bit - to see the emotions and automatic behaviors as they are playing out and be somewhat objective about it? Or do you get so engulfed in it, it is almost like going through it without consciousness, it happens. ?
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