ticklebot Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 I get insecure and look at my husbands web history sometimes. he looks at porn, which i dont mind, but some of the terms he uses to search bother me. He will search for things like "petite teens" and "very small girl , ". the sites have legal claims the girls are 18 but some of these girls look like they are 11-15 years old. i say these ages because the bodies are so thin and flat chested. ive known adult women who look abnormally young but its odd to seek these bodies on my mind. it all says its legal but should i be concerned? he had no creepy traits about him or anything, im just feeling odd about the searches. wish he was into busty women cuz id watch with him ! am i being nutty? im 8 months prego and feeling insecure about myself and hoping im just paranoid. any advice would be amazing!
ticklebot Posted July 14, 2012 Author Posted July 14, 2012 im a petite woman (5'2 100 lbs when not pregnant). but i am also very busty (32 DD). i know men typically look at porn for variety so i try not to take it personally, just more creeped out and hoping its not some weird child fetish or something.
Natasha24 Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 This is a tricky situation. Unfortunately, a lot of guys have this "fetish". I think if he's searching for these things on a legitimate porn site, you have nothing to worry about. He knows all the girls are of legal age, they're just pretending to be younger. I would be concerned if he was searching it on Google, or making an attempt at finding REAL videos of this. Have you ever dressed up as a "school girl" for him? I have done that for my boyfriend, and I guess it's kind of the same idea. It's a little creepy, for sure, but he's doing it in a way that's legal and not pedophile-ish. I don't know.
giubilante Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 I would feel uncomfortable with this... some guys are just into the 'schoolgirl' fetish, but others might have a pedo tendency. Still, the fact that he is looking at legal porn, rather than child porn, indicates that he is at least trying to stay on the right side of the law. If it is something that bothers you a lot, I think you should talk to him about it. Maybe something along the lines of, "Darling, I am feeling rather insecure right now, especially because I am pregnant and swollen... I was looking on the internet history for something, and see that you're looking at porn that depicts very young and immature looking women. Can we talk about this?" Try to make it sound as non-judgemental as possible.
Roxie84 Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 Sounds like you're worried that he might have fantasies similar to that of a petophile... I'd hate to run with that assumption when he could just innocently enjoy watching certain types of porn stars. I manage an adult sex store where we have video rentals and I speak to a lot of people about their sexuality. Some guys who enjoy watching small and petite women in porn enjoy it, not because they like little girls, but because they are arroused by seeing a small and vulnerable girl completely taken over by a large man. But if you're concerned, go with your gut. If I were you, I would start doing some research about criminal psychology (I've taken courses in it, and its pretty interesting in general), and focus on pedophiles. See what types of typical behaviours are exhibited in a large proportion of cases, and see if you can draw a significant and fair amount of parallels. If you are still concerned after this, then this is something you may want to discuss with some sort of professional. Unfortunately, this is one of those things that can't really be resolved by having open conversation with your partner. Communication is always key, but if he has thoughts he is trying to hide, this isn't something you'll be able to get out of him. Another question I have, do you know if he ever goes on erotic chat rooms? This may seem sneaky, but I had an ex who used to go on a chat, so I logged in under an alias to try to get dirt out of him. Lucky for me he said he has a hot gf, but was horny and just wanted to mess around online lol. I was concerned that he had some sort of weird fetish I should be concerned about, so this may have been sneaky, but it got me my answers.
pippy longstocking Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 I just think some men like that kind of body ... unless I had alarm bells ringing and that "gut" feeling I wouldn't be concerned at all
ticklebot Posted July 14, 2012 Author Posted July 14, 2012 wow you guys have been great! i have no bad feelings about it really just think its weird. i think hes into the innocence aspect and the small bodies since my husband loves how tight and short my genitals are. he is average in penis size which for me us more than enough and i know he is insecure about hus length. ive done the school girl stuff with him and he loves it. he also cant get enough of my breasts, so i dont think he is into children, my guess is the innocence factor. anyone else look at similar porn?
scared and alone Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 im not a guy, but the thought of looking at porn where anyone looks like i could get in trouble for looking at them, freaks me out too much to be turned on. but, maybe thats just me. If you want to look at porn, whatever. I really dont care anymore, just dont make it be something that is creepy (even if the girls are legal).
FYI Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 Guys are going to look at porn, I'm glad you've accepted that fact. But I agree with an above post that mentions that any kind of porn that looks like someone is below the legal age limit, it's an automatic fail. The thought alone is absolutely creepy, creeps me the hell out. So as long as it's legal, it's alright I guess.
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