Need a second opinion

[Hellhound1]

I have no real idea why I'm posting this, I'm 99% sure about whatas happening but guess I could do with a second opinion of what's going on..

 

So, about 3 weeks ago the place I work at hired 41 new staff, and I happened to notice one I quite liked, but thought she was way out of my league. Anyway, smiled at her at work, and got a smile back, so I asked her her name, and added her on Facebook (first mistake) started chatting to her and since that point up until tonight weve chatted pretty much solidly all day every day. But jump back to a week of knowing her, we'd pulled pranks on each other, caught eachother staring at eachother a fair few times, and she everrn once bit me! (playfully..)

 

So, I asked her on a date (second mistake) and she turned me down. Gently mind you. Gave some lame r reeason about not doing dates. I'm suddenly massively confused about what just happened. Being a fool (third mistake -friendzoned?) I keep talking to her, and the talk gets proper personal. I know her complete sex life, and the whole thing about her ex. Ho ho ho...

 

Her ex -king of jerks, some drug dealer thats been playing her against other girls, cheating on them with her, and her with himH etc. that type of guy. I can reaslky see what women see in him /sarcasm

 

Anyway, she's got him blocked on facebook but kereeps texting him, and theres me thinking she's interestreed in me (fourth mistake) and try to get involved and get her to go NC on hi

Worked with me afterrr posting on here.

 

No luck, she won't have it, almost goes and sees him a few times. Meanwhile, she randomly said to me "I do like you" like twice, completely out of the blue. I get dirty texts and even got boobs. But she won't even come out for a drink. Makrees excuses about getting too drunk - In my mind I think she just doesnt want to see me outside of work, but the flirting continues. This whole thing has gone on about a week now. Finally snapped and told her she was pissing me off. She just said "wow night"(fith mistake?) and I just didn't reply. Not long after, I see she's added her ex hack on Facebook. Deliberate stab at me, or is she jut not in to me, and doesn't think it'll effct me? Urgh, women.

 

ANy second opinion on what's happenreed, or a females perspective would be great. Did I just get played along there?

Cheers!

Apologies for bad typing, it's offf an iPhone and I'm tired!

[camus154]

So let's boil this down to the pertinent facts.

 

a) She was flirty with you at work

b) She turned you down about dating but still flirted with you

c) You're all up in her business about her ex and what she is and is not doing with him.

 

My friend, you got strung along, but in all fairness, she told you no. Move on and keep this woman at a professional distance.

[abitbroken]

She works with you and might not date coworkers. In fact, its a wise idea that you don't either. Also, if she is new, she doesn't want to jeopardize her job. I would not accept "boob pictures" and keep things strictly professional. She is getting the ego boost from you - she is also a trainwreck. She is a woman that has a horrible sense of boundaries - exhibit A chasing after her drug dealer ex if he is indeed a drug dealer and also sending you questionable photos though she barely knows you. (i think sending photos like this is a no because they can easily go viral, but if a couple wants to do that in their private relationship - well then, that is their deal but after a week??) (and I wouldn't playfully slug someone I knew for a week either) She might seem exciting, but if you dated this young woman, it would be one big load of drama and pain for you.

 

I think its in your best interest to not accept her sending you the dirty texts, etc. Ignore any inappropriate text at first, then talk to her, then block her if she doesn't stop. She is just looking for attention and you are giving it to her. She tells you she likes you to keep you on a string because she KNOWS she is turning you on not to mention not cool in the work place. If you continue accepting this, it will be hard to meet someone who is really into you.

 

Also, stop worrying about her adding her ex back. The only reaosn you told her to go NC is so you could have a chance.

[guynextdoor]

She likes the attention, stop giving it to her. Dude she's not over her ex. Forward me the boob pics.

[Hellhound1]

Thanks for the advice!

Guess I was just being overly optimistic! Thinking about it I let myself be strung along pretty badly. Oh and he is a drug dealer, he went to prison for it. She's a proper train wreck haha!

And boob pic guy, you aren't missing out on much.

[HeartGoesOn]

Look at it this way, you didn't lose anything of any value.

[grainsofrice]

Haha your respond is funny on forwarding pic @ guynextd. You sure can type long text on iPhone @ hellh. Happy Fri.