A gift for her Birthday

[bdbmwer]

Hi ive been talking to this girl for about a month and we had dated twice but gone out to parties and clubs with each other many more times then that. We had an awkward phase were she went silent, ignored me and stuff so I did the same and weeks later she started texting me and I was distant. Today she kept trying to keep the convo going before she told me sometimes im irritating and when I asked what I was doing she told me I wasnt the same as when we met. Basically long story short this led to a huge heart to heart that I havent had with a girl in a long time and she told me she went silent because her friends told her not to talk to me but she just couldnt stay away. So now were both in a really good place, all smiles, and shes been begging me to come to her birthday outing on tuesday and when I told her I would she got really excited. Also, just found out shes going to another state for college in august so I know this isnt going anywhere but I want to leave her with a fond memory atleast and she may even decide she wants to school here later.

 

Anyways my whole reason for giving that backstory was to show where were at with each other in terms of investment and attraction as it pertains to the level of my gift.

 

So I want to surprise her at work with something either leaving it on her car or give it to the people up front and was thinking either a single rose and a card under the windshield wiper or a nice perfume with a card so that every time she wears it shell think of me even after shes left for school. Are these over the top? suggestions?

[gluestick]

So I want to surprise her at work with something either leaving it on her car or give it to the people up front and was thinking either a single rose and a card under the windshield wiper or a nice perfume with a card so that every time she wears it shell think of me even after shes left for school. Are these over the top? suggestions?

 

I'd go with the rose plus card under windshield wiper route. Most girls love flowers. I wouldn't get her perfume because that's based a personal preference. She might not like the scent and there is no guarantee she will ever use it. So, that kind of busts your "she'll think of me every time she wears it" plan. It's also a gift you'd give someone in a relationship, not someone in the position you two are currently in.

 

That said, what is the goal here? You said you know this isn't going anywhere, but yet the message I'm getting is either 1) you're hoping she'll remember you, remain interested, and then pick up right where you left off after she comes back or 2) your actions would persuade her to go to school in your city...both of which are hopeful thinking for a future that may not happen. Are you guys dating right now or just hanging out as friends? It's not very clear in your post. If there's nothing defined, I wouldn't even be thinking of spending money to buy a gift. Just my 2 cents.

[bdbmwer]

ok duely noted yea I thought about her not liking the scent I was just going to go into perfumania and ask them which was a top seller. We are indeed dating I still do not want to appear over the top though. as far as what im hoping to accomplish well its probably more in line with option number 1 since were probably going to continue talking while shes away but less serious. Im just enjoying our time while shes here and since she has issues opening up and runs when she starts getting attached and I overcame that barrier I just want to show her its ok to do so. Shell will be returning home to visit ad for summer and winter breaks.

 

Im fully aware neither may happen and wont really be crushed either way since ive known this was coming and have avoided getting too invested.Its more of a enjoy the moment while ya can sort of thing

 

ps. thank you for the reply!