Long Distance Dating?

[motley802]

In May I'd met a great girl who happened to be my friend's housemate. She is an international grad student. We went on 7-8 dates during last couple of months. However, she is back in Europe (she's originally from there) for her research. And she has no idea when she is going to finish that (so that she can come back to US for finishing school). It may take 1 month or 6 months. We've been constantly exchanging texts since then. Lot of times we find each other saying "missing you dear".

 

I like her and we get along pretty well. But this long distance is hard. I do miss that physical intimacy with her (I guess same is the case for her too). I'm not sure whether we are in a relationship yet. But I've been itching to ask her, what does she think about us? I'm not sure whether I'm ready for long distance relationship. I'm dating other girls too but I'm unclear on whats going on between us. How shall I ask her? And if she wants to do long distance relationship then best thing would be to cut-off the contact as I'm not ready for that. So how shall I break that news to her?

[thePuma]

So how shall I break that news to her?

Like a man. Let me explain.

 

You sound like someone who likes to do things the right way, but you also sound like you're a little doubtful about yourself. I think that the first thing you need to do is to meditate on what you want for yourself. Are you ready for a long lasting relationship or do you just want someone for physical intimacy? Each one of these require two different levels of commitement.

 

If you decide that you want to invest in this realtionship, that this girl is worth waiting or even moving abroad, you need to start acting responsible, you'll need to describe what your feelings are to this girl and tell her that you want to commit to her.

 

If you decide that this realtionship is a shot in the dark, that there are so many variables that it might simply not work, you also need to act responsible. You'll need to tell her that you're a guy that needs physical intimacy and you're not ready to wait indefinitely for something that might or might not work. You can always tell her that you'll be there, waiting for her, but make sure that she knows that you'll be seing other girls.

 

Either way, I think that any girl will appreciate your honesty. And frankly, that's how a man should always be