tammi567 Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Call me crazy, but I am jealous of my boyfriend's sister. He and his sister are very close, but i think they are too close. For example, He will kiss her, hug on her, he will slap her butt and poke it, he will text her and say " Hey cutie", ect. If my boyfriend and me are hanging out she will text him and say " time to come home, its sister time." I went swimming with his family and they where all over each other- he would dunk her and be hugging up on her, he was touching her the same way he touches me, his girlfriend! He talks about her a lot too. If he hits me on the butt, I will say ouch, and he will say something like I hit my sister way harder and she can take it. or if we are lifting weights he will say oh, my sister canlift way more then you and she's younger. His sister i think is jealous of me, she will write on his face and say things like- you never spend time with me anymore your always thing your girlfriend- Me and her get along but we arent close. I have a brother and we are close but we don't touch each other like that. i find it to be just weird, and it can gross me out sometimes. I dont know what to do about the situation. I cant talk to him about because he will get very mad at me, and that will lead to a huge fight. Please help! thanks!
Natasha24 Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I wouldn't be jealous, I would be creeped out. A brother shouldn't be spanking his sister, that's inappropriate. If you're not willing to talk to him about this, there's really no way to fix it.
r0ckox Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 yep. sometimes close... is too close. and that's just creepy. dump him and tell him to go screw his sister. why be jealous? it's obvious whats going on here.
tammi567 Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 I know, It creeps me out too. I don't think brother and sisters should touch each other like you would your girlfriend/boyfriend, ect. He is on vacation right now with his family, so when gets back I may try talking to him. I honestly think I remind him of his sister is the reason he loves me so much. . He will say things like " My sister likes the same thing as you" or " You and my sister are so much a like"
Sunny1607307996 Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Are you sure he and his sister are biologically related? It sounds really fishy....like if maybe they are step-sibs and that there is real attraction going on there. I wouldn't deal with this man, he sounds like he has boundary issues or worse.
tammi567 Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 They are biological brother and sister. I do not think anything is going on sexually.
Capricorn3 Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Are you sure he and his sister are biologically related? It sounds really fishy....like if maybe they are step-sibs and that there is real attraction going on there. I wouldn't deal with this man, he sounds like he has boundary issues or worse. I was thinking the same thing. Something just seems very off here. Creepy is an understatement to say the least. I would go with my gut feelings ....... and I'd be outta there. Not sure if talking to him about it is a good idea.
alwaysmoving Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Wow, strange. I'd leave if my boyfriend acted like that with his sister.
ParisPaulette Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Yes, it's creepy. Really, really creepy. Ask him what his sister meant by the remark, "Time to come home, it's sister time." That alone would have had me going, "Oh gross," then running for the door. Nobody says that to their sibling and I do mean nobody unless something very, very wrong is going on there.
tammi567 Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 She didn't mean it the way you are thinking.
tammi567 Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 Yeah, It's creepy.. I've been with him for a very long time (3 years), So it's hard to leave just because of his sister..
r0ckox Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 i have a step sister, and she's never once told me it's "sister time" ... i'm telling you that there is something going on. you may not think it (as your comment stating you don't believe theres anything sexual going on) but there is something... and something is the opposite of nothing.... do what you have to do and walk, now. creepy to the max.
tammi567 Posted July 14, 2012 Author Posted July 14, 2012 Well, me and him decided to separate for good last night.There where other issues besides this, and we had grown apart through college. Him and his sister are both adults, so i guess they can do as they please. It's not my probem anymore. Thanks everyone for your help.
ParisPaulette Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 Good luck and I'm glad to hear you've walked away from someone that has some decidedly unhealthy issues going on.
Lambert Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I think you are better off. I wouldn't like the way he was comparing you.... Good luck
toonormal Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 wow, when I read the title I thought by myself "this is a case of really delusional jealousy", but it turned out that the reality was just really ****ed up. Omg, great that you left, how did he react? Have you told him "have fun with your sister"? hahaha this is just wrong indeed....He needs to go to a therapist. Or marry his sister, but that would not be really healthy considering the handicapped children they are likely to get
tammi567 Posted July 18, 2012 Author Posted July 18, 2012 No, I didnt tell him that, haha. It was a mutual break up over something else. but thanks everyone.
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