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[coulditbe]

Posted a couple of weeks ago and got great feed back would love the same again as i have just got a message from my girl. She is away travelling and i have spoke to her via e-mail today, i had said to her i want us to settle down (in the relationship sense we break up, get back together, break up again. I just want us to chill and enjy each other). So ill post the reply certain bits you won't understand, but to be brief we are both 25, we have been together a couple of years, and i love her so much. So please be honest with me as am kind of confused right now. I do feel i have grown up lately and am more clear in what i want. I want to enjoy my life and travel the world. I did let her down and i was always shady as i pointed out in my previous message to you guys. I did go and hang with my buddys alot, and tell little lies so i could stay out later and such things like that, i never cheated but my girl was never 100% sure. and i guess i drove her to think i was up to no good. You guys are normally great with advice so please help me out. Thank you.

 

Here is the e-mail

 

Just been thinking last two days about when u said ur ready to settle and down and if im not u want want to go separate ways, and also in ur letter my moodiness.

im not sure if u just want me to think about things or answere now or when im home!??

Honestly i am not ready to settle down, i wanna travel more im not ready to save my money for the future or think abot moving in together. I guess i hadnt thought about it until u clearly said thats what u wanted. That is just me being totally honest. Im learning alot about myself being away, what things i want to do when im back, how i want to live my life. Be more active, join some clubs, travel more, visit friends ive made. (hoping to anyway)

My moodiness is awful, and its because i am angry at u. i think deep down i feel if im happy,and were both happy together im setting myself up for disater.

I do feel uptight around u at times, its not nice for me either its like i feel u dont deserve to be happy with me.

The things is how do we overcome this? i am happy to see where things go when im back but im just not ready to plan a future.

I have to be honest. Its hard for me to say that without feeling really guilty because i think u want different.

I am really pleased u have been more honest lately. in all honestly i think u are realising u need to be happy too and u need to get what you want not just me.

I got ur letter just now, thats kinda what brought me to this email.

I love u so much babe and i know u love me too. and before u start saying or persuming things (like is this ur way of finishing us) because it is NOT i actually am quite happt now with us. listen to what i am saying please, these are basially my thoughts on what you said. xxxx

[Ms Darcy]

You end it like "let's stay together" but that's not what the rest of the letter says to me. You want her now because you don't want to really think of the future.

 

But when you think of the future, she (and what she wants) is really not in it. I think you need to stop stringing her along and let her find someone interested in settling down as well.

[DN]

This is an e-mail she sent to you is that right? You are the one who wants to settle down and she doesn't?

[FYI]

Who doesn't want to settle down with who? If I read it correctly this is her reply after the response you sent asking for the two of you finally settle into a real relationship? If I'm right, then the writing is on the wall if she clearly has said she isn't ready to settle down.