I dont feel like iam moving on

[pnoy]

Hi all i really dont feel like am moving any further on since my ex contacted me couple of days ago he only called me to ask if i told his family we broke up because of his cocaine habit, which i said no but when we initially broke up i said to him his drug taking made me feel down but he has told everyone that our breakup was mutual which isnt true he broke up with me he is saying we tried to work it out but we both just called it a day obviously because he wont tell his family about his drug habit although they no about his drug history

 

 

Then i find out through his facebook that he is in a relationship so i de- freinded him and after he rang me which we didnt argue we were both civil with oneanother he blocked me from face book he doesnt even use facebook ever i know the thing with facebook is not the be all or end all but i just feel really hurt and confused why did he ring me wish he hadnt now i really hate these feelings of sadness, hurt, and loneliness, while he is with another happy and falling in love

[mhowe]

You have been dwelling on this for days. You have got to just put it behind you and focus on your life. Whatever your ex is doing --is no longer your concern. If he is in another relationship -- so what? He is still a drug addict. He owes you no explanations....

[csr14]

Nor do you owe him any explanations. If he calls you again or contacts you, ask him to leave you alone or ignore him.

[pnoy]

Mhowe your right i have been dwelling on this i just feel like he has put me back in my healing, i just wish he hadnt contacted me

[mhowe]

Then next time, don't answer the phone. You need to take control -- this is about you and your healing -- not listening to his problems.

[pnoy]

I know thank you mhowe for your reply

[One day]

Hi pnoy,

 

I'm sorry your ex contacting you has set you back, speaks volumes that the only thing worrying him is his dirty little drug secret. And don't worry about fb, again his actions all centre around him without any thought for you. I know it truly sucks when people we love and care for have this self centric attitude.

 

Your doing ok pnoy, good days and bad days we get ourselves through them and as much as it hurts I'd really not answer the phone the next time he's wanting something for himself.

 

OD

[pnoy]

Thank you for the reply oneday i really dont expect him to call again i was just curious why he broadcasted his relationship status on facebook when he doesnt even use it and also why has he still got my number when we have been split up nearly 4 mnths and he has new girlfriend i havent got his number anymore

[One day]

Ah pnoy I wish I had an answer for you, regarding him still having you phone number I don't know maybe it's not such a biggie for the dumper to have the dumpees number still tucked away on their contacts list, your out of site and mind, they probably skim past it without a second thought. Where to us, the dumpers number is a big old flashing beacon a constant reminder which we are best not having......... I guess the same applies to fb your just not registering in his thoughts anymore, sorry if it sounds harsh pnoy not intended. I still have my ex on fb, so you have moved ahead of my in that regard but for me I came to the conclusion about a week ago that I'm well and truly out of my ex's mind. I was within weeks of the bu ha just taken me 3 and a half months to realise.

 

Hey I hope you feel better soon

 

OD

[Sportster2005]

Just don't de-friend him, block him. You will feel a sense of peace very quickly. And also consider changing your number.

[pnoy]

Thanks OD i have just got to try and stop these thoughts and get on with my life