dbfc Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 A quick recap,ex of 2.5 years cheated on me and we have been broke up for 2 month. So,ive been doing pretty well of late,stuck to nc for 6 weeks,had the odd txt off the ex but ignored. Anyway,a few days ago i bumped into the ex while out with my dog,we spoke for like 5 mins,she was telling me that her car was broke down,shes off work and bored etc,then i left. A few hours later she txts me asking about her car and if i will have look at it,i eventually responded and said no. Now,onto last night,i was out at my local having a few drinks,and the ex turned up,whats crazy is i never thought i would see the ex in our local ever again,but anyway,we smiled at each other once or twice during the night,until the end,it was leaving time for everyone and me and the ex got talkin outside,i actually didnt feel that hurt or anything until she put things in my face,she told me that she fell for someone a few weeks ago and knows how i felt when she cheated on me,but yet she says she didnt do anything,hmm,like i wanted to hear any of this,then she startedd telling me how her ex before me had started txting her,and now shes met him and something might happen,why on earth she was telling me all this is beyond me,its like she was twisting the knife and tryin to hurt me.
jaciej Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 She is testing the water to see if there are still feelings there on your part... trying to get a reaction. Should have changed the subject and said your goodbyes.
dasilver Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 She is testing the water to see if there are still feelings there on your part... trying to get a reaction. Should have changed the subject and said your goodbyes. Second that.... Indifference will make smoke blow out of her ears...
dbfc Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 Maybe she is testing the water because ive shown nothing but indifference when ive seen or spoke to her,which isnt that often. Just after i posted this thread the ex txt me asking if i wanted to carry on the conversation,and silly me replied sayin that it did hurt what she told me last and there was no need for it and happy bday.. She replied saying " Nothings gonig to change them 2 and half years we had, (her ex) messaged me,we got talking and we met up simple as,its like its ok for you to talk to other women but im not allowed" ...Ive not replied to her,nor have i ever said she cant talk to other men. She obviousley knows i still love her so i dunno if she was testing the water,she 100% knows i will never take her back because she cheated so she has nothing to gain from this. Back to NC for me,damn i was doing so well too,3 steps forward and 2 steps back i hope. 1 thing i have noticed though is when we have spoke she always explains herself,like when we spoke last night she got a message and i politely said "ur popular tonight aint ya" she told me who was messaging her and what was said.
dasilver Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Ignore her. This lady cheated on you...and still has no intention of going back to you. My exex broke up with me due to GIGGS (Grass is Greener Syndrome). After breaking up with me he went and made an announcement to all of our mutual friends informing them that we were through. With his new found freedom he started pursuing some of our mutual female friends that were single. After tiring from chasing women all over the place, he starts sending me text messages about he much he misses me and still has feelings for me and how he wants to see me but without the "title". I told him I’m no longer interested in any type of relationship with him unless it’s a platonic one. But he thinks (because of his oversized ego) that he’ll be able to win me over. So he keeps texting me, I just remain indifferent to him…which infuriates him. I don’t call him, text him, email him and that just pushes him to contact me more. Read the text message carefully (the ones your ex sends), you’ll be able to see that she doesn’t like you at all….Read those messages for what they really are. A, self-absorbed, sad lady that texts you for ego stroking.
Ms Darcy Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Stop talking to her if you run into her. Don't respond to her texts. Strict no contact.
dbfc Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 I always ignored her when she contacted me,i avoided places i knew she could be at,i was changing myself for the better,basically i was doing everything right and it felt like i was starting to finally move on. Last night when i saw her my heart did race a little bit but i was quite suprised how unhurt i was feeling,it just felt like id come a very long way,even when we 1st spoke i felt fine. Its just what she said that did hurt me,feels like im being replaced or maybe i was a rebound seeing as he is her ex before me or maybe shes rebounding again,who knows. All i know now is that i need to go back to nc for good because while ever she knows ive got feelings she will continue to contact me for ego strokes,test the water or whatever it is shes doing.
Ms Darcy Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 IF you don't engage in small talk and you block her then she can't get to you again. Keep up the good work.
Sportster2005 Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Sounds like you know exactly what to do. It was a slip up. Don't dwell on it. Just get back to NC. And try not to wonder why this and why that. You'll just keep yourself awake at night for no benefit. The important thing isn't the 'whys', the important thing is they do it. And you shouldn't have to put up with it. Best of luck .
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