emily1804 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 So I appreciate that I may come accross as rather crazy and childish but im literally losing my mind over a guy. Iv been single for over a year after a string of bad guys and have become quite bitter and careless when it comes to men. Every guy I seemed to meet only seemed interested in one thing and generally nothing ever seemed to work out, to be honest I stopped believing in romance, thinking that at my age (early 20s) it didnt really exist. But then I got talking to this guy, hes a friend of a friend and has been around a long time but for some reason weve never actually got speaking... After a short 15 minute conversation that was interrupted I wasnt exactly thinking of him in a romantic way but i remember feeling incredibly happy id met him and impressed. The next time we met we were both quite typsy and ended up walking to a club together, we were having such a laugh talking and suddenly he asked for my number.. Then it hit me that perhaps this could become something. In the two weeks that followed I recieved a few texts from him, one saying he was sad I left and was hoping to get to know me more, one that seemed like a stupid excuse for a text and a few "drunk" texts on his nights out. I knew he was interested because I didnt make the effort to text him. Last week he text me early in the morning and we were chatting for six hours long until I decided id found the perfect moment to not reply... The convos got to end at some point right? After that I heard nothing until I was on a night out and he picked us up in his car and drove us to another town. This seemed really nice because he was alone with myself and my girl mates for a while. He paid for the taxi, bought us all shots and then spent the night dancing, buying me drinks and talking to me, he even took pictures of us together and uploaded them onto facebook. I was more drunk than him and spent a lot of the night talking, dancing and hugging other people, it was only when my friend told me to dance with this guy that we ended up kissing and had a really nice romantic time. I told the guy I was ready to leave and he suddenly told his mates to leave the club too so that we could share the taxi home. They dropped me off, he refused to let me pay and then got out of the taxi and kissed me bye.. He did not even mention sex to me. We texted as soon as I got in and for a few hours in the morning, his mate had sent me a text off his phone saying "wish you were here nakid"... We had a little flirt and once again I felt the correct moment to end the convo and not reply to the text. I thought i was playing it cool and was adamant I would wait for him and felt sure I would get a drunk text off him the next night. But I didnt, infact I got nothing for just short of two days. I started to worry and suddenly I felt weird and couldnt rest. My friends convinced me to text him, explaining that hed made the most effort and he obviously liked me and was probably trying to play it cool. So on Monday morning I text him, he replyed with some texts which were quite flirty and could be percieved as hints that he wants to see me... On my lunch break my dad who im incredibly close to told me I was being ridiculous, that it was obvious he likes me and we were both just acting shy. Seen as he was due to go on holiday the day after the next, he told me I should invite him out for a drink to ensure he knew I was interested. Im normally against being forward but he convined me that it was almost a definite that he would say yes, so much that he said he would give me £20 if he said no. In the end I took the bet and sent the text asking him if he wanted to do something before his holiday. He replyed saying it might be a bit of a problem because he was so busy getting stuff ready he didnt know if hed have time, and sorry!" Obviously I took this to mean he wasnt interested and replyed saying telling him to have a good holiday and told him I was embarrased about the text... and he carried on texting me asking me why on earth I would be embarrased and saying I had nothing to be embarrased about! That there was nothing wrong with being forward and he didnt mind it personally etc... He went on holiday and I havent heard anything since. All my friend are under the impression that I havent ruined it and when he comes back I will probably pick off where it ended, and when I think back over the way he treated me I can see their point of view, maybe he was generally busy?? However I have this really weird feeling that iv messed it all up, and its really annoying me because for some stupid reason im gutted, I havent felt this way about someone in years. I really like this guy, I think he is what I want from a man, and I just want to get to know him more. I seem to be pinning a lot of hope on it and I wish I wasnt, its completely irrational, normally I move off one person straight away if I think they have lost interest but with this guy I literally cannot get him out of my head. I cant eat or sleep or concentrate properly, nothing takes my mind off him. I cant explain why I feel like this, I feel like it was made to be but then I know that the majority of the time its all for nothing and these feelings are usually a complete waste of time! I would really appreciate some oppinions? And help in taking my mind off this guy!!!
mhowe Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Deep breath. You are fine. He is just getting his life back together after his holiday. You will hear from him.
emily1804 Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 he went on holiday today... what how should I be next time I see him?
mhowe Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Ummmm....ask him how his holiday was? Really --- he probably left too much to the last minute -- and he clearly said you had nothing to be embarrassed by. Go do something fun so you can tell him about it when he gets back! He went on holiday and I havent heard anything since CHILLL!!!!
emily1804 Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 lol so its all in my head? that makes me feel better.. You dont think I need to read into the fact he didnt contact me since the night? The only thing he has done is upload some pictures on facebook last night (we had a bit of banter about the fact that he had his chest waxed for his holiday) and last night he uploaded before and after pictures (he has a really nice body and he knows I think this cos I drunkenly brought it up). My mate laughed and said hed blatently done it for me to see...
emily1804 Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 thats me writting badly i meant, I havent heard anything since the awkward conversation on monday... and he went on holiday today...
mhowe Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 You do know today is Wednesday, right. And you are not "dating" him --- you are flirting w/ each other? You have a broadway play going in your head! Chill oouuuuuttttt.
emily1804 Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 yeah thanks for that, if i found it easy to chill out then i wouldnt be writing on here would i??
mhowe Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Well, since it appears I am the only one listening --- I say -- I agree w/ your dad. You are fine. He is on vaca. He is having happy thoughts of you. Relax and enjoy yourself.
calichick007 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Relax. It's been two days, and he's on vacation. He isn't your boyfriend, and you aren't even dating. He isn't required to talk to you every day.
emily1804 Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 well thanks i guess, thats all i wanted, just to know that there was still hope. I already feel a lot more relaxed and shall see what happens when he gets back
lostandhurt Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 No you didn't. If he is interested he will contact you when he returns. Actually you are lucky he didn't give up earlier. The dating game is crazy!!! I am no fan but you have to play if you want to win. Lost
imsuperman Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 You should be in good standing with him. Both of you should try to avoid the "Playing it cool" game. If you want to talk to him/see him, do so.
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