largetable Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 My ex boyfriend broke up with me two months ago after a loving 5 year relationship. His reason was that he does not love me any more. At that time, I reasoned with him and he agreed to reconsider things and agreed to talk about his feelings some time later. We went strict NC. I got an email from him a few days ago asking for some of his stuff. I replied very briefly. Today I got this email: " I am sorry for what I did to you. I understand if you are angry at me." I don't know whether it is just "testing the waters" or should I reply to him? I am still heart broken, but at the same time I would like to give him a second chance if he still loves me.
mhowe Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 It is not testing the waters. It is an apology. If he wanted to say "I still love you" he would have. And the reason he is in contact is to het his stuff. His reason for leaving you, unfortunately, remains the same. He isn't offering any "changes in his feelings"....he is sorry to have hurt you.
Ms Darcy Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Well you made it clear he could reconsider and discuss things with you so I would not get my hopes up with that vague statement.
Mellie Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I think the generic advice, if your intention is getting back together, is letting him know you're not angry with him and that he was right to break up - it wasn't working. That is opening the door to more potential heartache though. Being out of love is about as big a hurdle as you can get over. I expect you've made quite a bit of progress in 2 months, are you prepared to potentially be set back over what may be nothing?
Angel Irulan Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Wow! It's easy to read what he says in a positive way if you want to get back together, and makes it confusing, but I would not presume anything positive. Even if he's the most shy guy around I think he would have said he wants to give it another try. I'd just ignore this as it might trigger another commitment phobic response in him. Angel
mhowe Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Honestly, I disagree w/ Angel. You can't read anything into that besides....he is sorry.
largetable Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 Thank you girls very much! I will take your advice and continue moving on with my life.
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