not getting better

[pnoy]

Hi all, my ex broke up with me nearly 4 mnths ago last week he posted on facebook he is in a relationship so i deactivated him as a friend then 2 days ago he rang me to ask if ive told my family that we split up over his drug habit i said no because it has got back to his mum he is 47 by the way and his mum knew he had a drug habit but thought he had stopped when he met me which he hadnt but he is a good liar!

 

Anyway when he rang me 2 days ago to ask about the drugs, he then went on to say how have i been i said am great which was a lie but am not going to tell him iam still not over him and then i asked how he was he said he was ok. There was no argument or awkwardness with us i then said ok then he said ok bye.

 

I went on facebook today and he has blocked me i know some will say so what get over it you dont need to look at his facebook, but i feel really down again i know he never rang me to get back together but it wasnt a horrible conversation we had just wondering why he blocked me he never goes on facebook the last time was 1 yr ago and just recently to change his status

 

I just feel sad all over again

[happyfrank]

Go NC. Change number and don't go on facebook for awhile.

 

He does drugs and likes somebody else. Move on!

[luminousone]

While it hurts now, he has done you a favor by blocking you. It will help you to heal if you go no contact from here on out. How you feel from this phone call illustrates the need for nc because it opens up your wounds each time you talk with him or see his fb posts.

[pnoy]

I havent once contacted him since we broke up

[luminousone]

I havent once contacted him since we broke up

 

Thats great and now the next step is to block any future calls from him, block him on fb, etc.

 

Sounds like you are discouraged at how you are feeling at this stage- but keep in mind each time there is contact it will set your healing back, so you want to take precautions to enable you to do the healing you need to do.

[Silverbirch]

I think you are probably doing a lot better than you think you are. A lot of us have still been very sad at 4 months. I know that for me, at six months, I had definitely passed a turning point. This could ultimately become a turning point for you.

[pnoy]

I still feel sad and i still love him which am angry with myself for feeling this way i just wish he hadnt contacted me to ask if ive told on him for his drug taking why should he care anyway his family know his past history and why ask how aim doing all nice to me then blocks me on facebook i deactivated him for my own sake am just so upset

[luminousone]

Be kind to yourself and ride this through. You'll get there- and keep in mind that grief sometimes comes in waves.

[pnoy]

i deactivated him so i wouldnt be on his facebook so why has he blocked me

[seoulmate]

I havent once contacted him since we broke up

 

But you've visited his Facebook...and that is keeping a form of contact. That is peering into his life.

 

You ask, why has he blocked you? Because he doesn't want you looking at his Facebook. Regardless if you are not "Facebook friends" anymore, you were still visiting his page. He doesn't want you to. That's about as simple as it gets.