MEN: you have a "perfect" girl - now what could turn you off?

[pl3asehelp]

I was quoting those men that run away.

 

Sorry, they were lying. I hope you don't think you're perfect - I'd just forget that idea.

[Elsewhere]

Sorry, they were lying. I hope you don't think you're perfect - I'd just forget that idea.

 

No, I do not think im perfect. But I've gotten to believe we were perfect for each other...

[FathomFear]

No, I do not think im perfect. But I've gotten to believe we were perfect for each other...

 

I highly doubt anyone could do that in a period of two months. More than likely it was just puppy love/early infatuation.

 

There's also the factor of age. Even if two people are highly compatible, one or both people might be young enough such that they just aren't interested in settling down for a LTR.

[BrianH46]

Good point! He looked head over heals for me maybe that was all an act makes me miss him less tho, so thanx!

 

Damn I'm sorry he did that to you.

[Day_Walker]

As mentioned here there are a laundry list of items that would cause a guy to leave the "perfect girl". I dont think that people are looking for an impressive list of accomplishments, I think that they are looking for a person that they can relate to and want to have a future with.

[The_Seeker]

Because she wasn't that awesome and I said those things to get in her pants. : Might be a possible explanation. Girls who I find amazing, I generally don't let get away also I tend to save my compliments for when we get more serious. Reason being I want her to understand that my praise shouldn't be taken lightly and that I mean what I say.

 

Really? LOL

 

[Coughs] wHAT [coughs] a [coughs] "nice" [coughs] guy.

 

This is the reason i'm dating multiple people so I don't deal with this type of crap. LOL

[lalalollipops]

There is no such thing as perfection, and personally from your list I wouldn't think that person was 'perfect.' I think a warm personality, compassion, honesty, determination, understanding, caring are more important.

Anyway the guys were clearly infatuated. Don't believe everything you hear. 2 months is too short anyway.

[Sportster2005]

Say you got a girl who is beautiful, sexy, witty, smart. The chemistry is there and she likes you too. She's independent, has a good job and overall you get along on most levels.

 

What are the things that may want to overlook all her awesomeness and leave her???

 

Because this has happened to me. Twice actually. They tell me all these things and before I know it, they're withdrawn.

Please note: I ruled out sex as a factor.

 

I think your looking through the end of the telescope. It's not they are overlooking your awesomeness. They initially overlooked something they didn't like and later they decided they can't overlook it anymore.

 

During the early infatuation and attraction phases we sometimes think we have found the perfect mate. Then when the honeymoon phase is over reality sets in. Then we tend to be more critical. And things that weren't a big deal at first become annoyances. Or things we didn't see become known.

 

And you've ruled out sex. How modest.

[Elsewhere]

I think your looking through the end of the telescope. It's not they are overlooking your awesomeness. They initially overlooked something they didn't like and later they decided they can't overlook it anymore.

 

During the early infatuation and attraction phases we sometimes think we have found the perfect mate. Then when the honeymoon phase is over reality sets in. Then we tend to be more critical. And things that weren't a big deal at first become annoyances. Or things we didn't see become known.

 

And you've ruled out sex. How modest.

 

I work backwards then... Bc at first all I see in a oerson is their flaws. Then as I get to know them, I overlook what I didnt initially like and focus on what i learned to like.

 

Lol i ruled out the sex not by being overly confident, but bc I didnt want everyones first guess to be: well did he drop out right after he got it? Cause he did not.

[Michele32]

you can't force someone to like you and you can't force yourself to like someone either. just think of a time when you met someone great but you didn't like them and didn't know why? people like who they like and sometimes you question it but you can't force feelings. a guy recently told me this as well, that he doesn't know why he doesn't like me because I have so much going for me etc etc. you can't force it.

[Elsewhere]

Oh I know. I would've been happily married for years if I could enforce love to 2 long time friends who are like me.

My point was: he really cared! And then somehow I turned him off