buttsy Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I've been dating this girl for 4 months. I am madly in love with her, she claims she is with me. We have a very sexual relationship. Almost every day an sometimes 2 or 3 times a day. It's not just sex with her it's great, it's making love for sure. However we don't go on dates anymore, we never spend alone time together. She lives with her parents, I spend almost every night there. She claimed she wants to go out, but there's always a reason not to. I.e. allergies, headache, tired. She will go out with her friends but not me. She initiates the sex 85% of the time. I write her notes expressing my feelings to her, and she doesn't respond. We talk she says she loves me but something has changed. She's been under a ton of stress, been through a ton the last 4 months, but this just started happening a month ago. I treat her better than anyone ever, she even says it. I try to make sure our relationship is the one thing she can count on, but here I am worried about it. What should I do?
csr14 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 It sounds like your relationship is very based on sex which that isn't good. On the same token, it's wonderful that you have such a great sex life because many couples are great in other areas but lacking that. I think you should just talk to her, let her know you are worried and would like to work towards making it more than just sex. Tell her you want to do other things - if she's not willing you need to get the bottom of it, because if all she wants is sex, it's not really a relationship at all.
Eaudesource Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Sounds to me like you're almost too into her. I would just give her a bit of space for now if I were you and do things on her terms. If you push too hard she may get scared and get out of the relationship. And the love note thing... if she's not writing back I think it's time to stop writing here these notes with feelings on them. It may be a bit much in my opinion.
dasilver Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 buttsy.....Isn't this the same girl that keeps hanging out with her ex-boyfriend? The same girl that's always so busy that you feel have to make an "appointment" with just to get some alone time with her. The same girl that texted you that she was in her ex-boyfriend's pool one night when she didn't respond to your text message. The same girl that didn't invite you to a party because it was her ex-boyfriend's party. The same girl that said she was going out with a group of her friends that included her ex-boyfriend but you couldn't come because "they don't really let new people in" I'm sorry...but you are way more invested in this relationship than she is... Look at the way she is behaving buttsy....Can you honestly say you like it? Do you honestly from the bottom of your heart feel that you can't do better?
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