pnoy Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Hi all, me yet again ex just rang me the conversation went like this " hiya its only me did you tell your aunty that i was taking drugs because its gone all around my family that you said that. I replied no but your aunty is telling my aunty that my son split us up and your aunty said to my aunty that you were taking drugs, he then said ive never blamed your son ive told my family that we both had problems and we called it a day on our relationship"" H e then said anyway how are you to which i replied am great how are you he said am ok i then said how is your back problem he said had operation 3 weeks ago got to have more surgery. I said oh well at least thinkg are getting done with your back i then said anyway have to go he said sorry to put all this on you i said ok no problem, bye then any thoughts on this people. I have kept NC for 2 mnths deactivated him from facebook because he put in a relationship and iam trying so hard to get on with my life am i just cluctching at straws here?
mhowe Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Yes - you are clutching at straws. Back to NC -- leave him alone.
pnoy Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 I didnt contact him he contacted me i have stayed NC for 2 mnths
mixhot Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 agree with mhowe he also could of text you that too. or mail. i think it was an excuse to call maybe checking up on you!!?
Clueless90 Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Anything beyond actually telling you and proving with his actions he has changed and wants to you back should be ignored.
pnoy Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Sorry clueless90 not sure what you mean, but the truth is he does take drugs but he doesnt want his family to know
pnoy Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 I get what you mean clueless90, but when he rang i didnt know what the conversation was about until he said everything
rAFC Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 How do you feel about him calling? If it set you back at all, and I'm guessing it did if you are posting about it, go back to no contact and stick to it until contact from him means nothing to you. No contact doesn't just mean not contacting him, it also means not answering or responding to his contact. Believe me, if he wants you back, he will leave a message saying so.
Clueless90 Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I get what you mean clueless90, but when he rang i didnt know what the conversation was about until he said everything Yeah I mean it shows to a certain extent he is thinking about you and I reckon the whole drug thing was a reason to contact you but I wouldn't read too much into as you said he is now in a relationship with someone else and you're doing amazing, its hard to even delete our exes off FB etc and you're moving forward but until he ditches this other person and really shows and means getting back together then I would totally ignore his attempts to engage you in any communication. I hate exes who're with new people and keep giving hopes to their exes by contacting them etc, its selfish and they know that by coming and going they're keeping you on the line don't feel like you've taken any steps back, its a little set back but you did good, you kept it short and ended the convo and maybe from now on do not let him communicate with you
Ms Darcy Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 He called because he doesn't want you telling folks he's taking drugs. Pretty straightforward. I don't think he's secretly trying to get you back. You would know it.
pnoy Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 His family already know of his drug habit his mum thinks he gave it up when he met me but i always promised him if we split up i would never tell his mum and i wont because his ex before me told his mum he was taking drugs by the way he is 47 yrs old
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