Is he trying to tell me something?

[junglebunny]

I've been talking to this guy from college for months now. We both graduated last year and we live about an hour and 15 minutes away from each other. We talk all the time and he's always calling me babe or baby and telling me he misses me. The last time we saw each other was about a month ago and we've been trying to make plans, but we are always so busy. His schedule has been super crazy and he's been working a lot of hours. Last week on wednesday I asked him if he wanted to see a movie thursday night, but he was working thursday night so he suggested sunday night and i agreed. Yesterday around 4 he texted and said I'm almost out of work and I said ok, just let me know when you want to meet and he said he had to nap first so I said well do that and then just text me because we can go whenever. He texted me at 7 asking for a rain check because he was exhausted and yeah, i got upset over it, but I just said sure. He texts me this morning and says Sorry I'm a really bad friend. I mean, yeah we aren't exclusively dating so I guess he is my friend, but at the same time I feel like that was his way of saying we're just friends. I am probably overreacting and I'm usually not like this, but I really like him a lot, so it just threw me off. I was just wondering if anyone else had any thoughts on the situation.

[Ms Darcy]

If I were you, I would look elsewhere. He doesn't seem to have the time to date you (or the interest).

[Sarah2101]

ummmm... since you were the one asking to go to the movies, may be he didn't see it as a date (Gosh some people need pen and paper to understand)

 

Since he's talking abt you two as "friends" may be he thought you were just friendly inviting him and not really into him, or may be he knows and wants to make sure you like him too, but it's a twisted way to do it 'cause he could have simply shown he likes you, after all he's the guy, it's his job to "chase" you.

 

I think it's up to you, you either let him know that you like him, or you keep playing the cool friends things and see if there's more, I mean if he like you too or if he opens his eyes eventually. It depends on your personnality. Personnaly, I'm too shy to let a guy know I like him so it's up to you lady to see how you wanna handle it.

 

Wish you luck.

[Natasha24]

Friends don't call each other "babe" and "baby".

 

My guess would be is that he enjoys having a texting buddy to flirt with, but doesn't have the balls to actually make it happen in person. You're not overreacting - he's giving mixed signals and it's confusing.

I would try to hang out one more time, and it will be clear in person how he feels for you (if he likes you, he'll touch your arm, hug you, etc). If he still won't make plans, I'd say drop him and move on. It doesn't sound like he's interested enough to make this happen for real.

[junglebunny]

Yeah he is confusing and I do need to see him another time. Also, He already knows that I like him and he has told me he likes me too, but then he plays these stupid games, which makes me wonder all the time.