Rostik77 Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 So the last time i talked to her i found out she was dating someone behind my back and played it off like she wasn't doing anything and i called her out on it because iknew ae was lying and leaving me for this kid the day she left me. She denied it over and over but i just had that gut feeling and what do you know, i was right. She got really mad at me and trie calling me over and over saying she wanted to talk and tell me i was wrong and that its none of my business who she likes and doesnt like because we arent dating.. Honestly its better we're not talking because its helping me but i still miss her and miss talking to her because she was my bestfriend 2 years before we were dating. 6 weeks into NC and it doesn't really bother me too much expect that i am completely alone. Being lonely and not having that special someone really feels worse than everything thats happened since the BU and nomatter what i do i still cant fond any friends nor have i had any luck dating. I work 7-5 everyday fulltime til summers over and i go back to school so im hoping i'll meet someone there i really miss having a girlfriend or better yet someone at all to care for me.
r0ckox Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Sounds very similar to my situation, man. Tried building a relationship with a girl, 4 months into it i found out there was someone else in the picture, she denied it over and over - and now 3 years later she's engaged to the guy. i feel your pain, man and as cliche as it sounds, you aren't alone. i'm in the same boat. going on 3 weeks NC now when it should have been 3 years, but i let myself fall for stupid lies and am now paying for it. just keep trucking. every day it gets easier.
Rostik77 Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Amen to that, thanks for the support i'm sorry to hear that. Yeah i'm tired of being lied to by the person i would share everything with.. I'm done being strung along and messed with hoping to atleast get friendship out of it because she clearly wants nothing to do with me anymore. Her loss
r0ckox Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 Amen to that, thanks for the support i'm sorry to hear that. Yeah i'm tired of being lied to by the person i would share everything with.. I'm done being strung along and messed with hoping to atleast get friendship out of it because she clearly wants nothing to do with me anymore. Her loss you can't have a friendship with someone you have feelings for. I used to sit around and think "well, a friendship is better than nothing.." but it's really not. i'd rather have nothing than continue to be hurt. i don't know why people can't just be honest.
Taven Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 It's good you're filling your days at least, it helps immensly. And you'll be meeting new people so fingers crossed!! I'll never understand how so many people treat the person they're suppose to care about with such disdain. Your situation seems similar-ish to mine, just gotta ride it out buddy. Good luck!
Rostik77 Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 you can't have a friendship with someone you have feelings for. I used to sit around and think "well, a friendship is better than nothing.." but it's really not. i'd rather have nothing than continue to be hurt. i don't know why people can't just be honest. I don't know why either... She would have saved us both so much pain and suffering if she had just told me the truth.
r0ckox Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I don't know why either... She would have saved us both so much pain and suffering if she had just told me the truth. thats what ive been saying for years!! all the stupid drama between us would have never happened had she just said "i don't want a relationship right now." when i first asked her what was going on with her.... i even went as far as asking her to tell me if there's someone else she's interested in, so i'll know not to care anymore. then i get lied to about everyone. it's a shame how people behave.
Rostik77 Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 thats what ive been saying for years!! all the stupid drama between us would have never happened had she just said "i don't want a relationship right now." when i first asked her what was going on with her.... i even went as far as asking her to tell me if there's someone else she's interested in, so i'll know not to care anymore. then i get lied to about everyone. it's a shame how people behave. That is exactlly what i told her too! And she said no! And there was -_- then she has the nerve to yell at me an try to make me get over her like its my fault.. Shes the one who wasn't honest from the start i didn't do anything wrong. It would have been easier to move on if she had just told me that instead of trying to play it off like "we weren't working out or its me not you" she went bak and forth so many times i didn't know what to believe anymore wheter it was me or her.. I'm over it i don't need to be walking on glass even after the relationship. Shes got alot going on but shes a time bomb so god help whoever shes with now because they don't understand her like i do, she dug herself this hole i almost feel bad for her.
r0ckox Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 man you sound exactly like me, hahaha. ive been saying all the same stuff! i love it when they lie, you know they're lying, then they try and turn it around on you. i specifically asked her to come to me and tell me if she finds that she's into someone else so i don't have to waste my time, and she said she would. a couple months later she's all over some guy's facebook talking about how she misses him, misses waking up to him, blah blah blah, and when i called her out on it, she argued with me telling me i was wrong, i had no clue what i was talking about, she was 'only doing that to help him get rid of an ex that was bothering him' and whatever. then she came to meet me in person and told me she'd never date the guy, he lives too far away, it's her friend's cousin.. whatever. low and behold, he was the one she wanted the whole time. i was just the security blanket and the ego boost -- and every time i got mad and tried to walk away, i'd get blamed for nothing working out between us because i "bugged out" too much -- yet she was the one lying and hiding everything. oh and im from new york too. hope we're not talking about the same chick ;D hahaha
Rostik77 Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Hahaha no we are not, its unfortunate because we praise them to be these great people and then we get stabbed in the back for no reason... I was her first and she was mine so i don't think that its the same girl hahaha. but i never did anything to where she would want to breakup with me so i knew it had to be someone else. Go figure its her other "bestfriend" the one who hated me the most when we were dating is the one she likes now.. he would get inbetween everything over the past year and a half but i always respected him reguardless.. I bet its because he went and joined her dance team in november to get close to her-_-. He got ao involved in her passion for dancing that i guess she fell for him over me? I was always stuck in the side watching anyways. i swear he is gay, everyone says it but apparently he isn't? None of howy ex broke up with me made any sense.. hope yours wasn't as bad as mine my friend. I hope we can find a more respectful woman sometime in the near future
r0ckox Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 it's always the best friend. that's what they say, isn't it? "i want someone who is my best friend". i hope so, too.. but that's going to be tough for me since she was the only girl i ever thought was respectable. she's clearly not anymore... but every other girl i've ever met has been nothing but trashy girls who cheat on boyfriends and ***** around (not for $, well some. not all) and are just genuinely useless. but, i talked to some psychic a few weeks back (thanks to my family's request i join them) and apparently within the next year i'm going to meet somebody. but we'll see. psychics aren't real in my eyes.
Rostik77 Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Good for you man. Yeah alot of gorls from where we live are unfortunetly trashy and don't care about themself enough. We will find someone eventually, i'm hoping when i go back to college in august i will meet someone special i can spend all this free time i have with it sucks being lonely but we can't make someone love us that doesn't want to
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