How to react to being blown off?

[BlahBlah123]

This incident is definitely confusing to me. I have been interested in this guy for some time, but never thought anything would come of it. But, lo and behold this past week he asked me if I'd like to do something with him this past weekend and gave me his number. I agreed, gave him my number, and then had to run as we were both working. Saturday rolls around and in the early afternoon I shoot him a text asking if he's still up for getting together this weekend. He says yep, that he's busy Saturday evening but was definitely interested in Sunday. He told me he'd shoot me a text about Sunday later. So Sunday rolls around, waiting, waiting, waiting... of course he never texts. But he's on facebook all day. Didn't even bother to tell me he couldn't/wasn't interested in getting together. So I sat around waiting like all day until I finally realized what was going on, ughhh.

 

 

I'm wildly confused by this. I didn't pursue him, he pursued me. Asked me to do something, gave me his number, etc... and then HE bails on ME? Why in the world would you even bother asking and confirming if you weren't interested?! Normally I would just back off and say screw it and move on, but it just seems so odd to me that he would go awol like that. Should I ask him about it? Just carry on and forget about him? What if he tries pursuing me again?

 

I've never been in this situation before so it's kind of puzzling haha

[amipushy]

He's just a coward who changed his mind. I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of letting him know that it bothers you. If he pursues you again, run faster.

[DylanNotorious]

Don't do anything and wait for him to ask you out again. But this time, you let him do all the work and you just sit back and see if it happens. I would suspect he went out Saturday night, and just couldn't be bothered doing anything Sunday. He should have called you tho.

[MikNomis]

No you should not say anything, you should just move on. I think his level of interest for you is such that you're not a priority for him so he'd like to call you up when he has nothing much to do.

[soybeans]

Well considering I have been in situations like this many a time, I can tell you this- just be grateful you didn't get any further and actually invest your time in this guy. He's obviously unreliable and probably just wanted the ego stroke.

 

Don't even give it one more thought! Move on to someone who actually wants to be around you.

[Ms Darcy]

Well considering I have been in situations like this many a time, I can tell you this- just be grateful you didn't get any further and actually invest your time in this guy. He's obviously unreliable and probably just wanted the ego stroke.

 

Don't even give it one more thought! Move on to someone who actually wants to be around you.

 

 

Agree completely!

[Gandaako]

That happened to me once. This guy was texting me evryday. He asked me to hang out and I agreed. We planed the day and time when but he was suppose to tell me about the location so we can meet there. The day we supposed to go out he sent text messages but nothing about hanging out and where. I didn't bring it up. The next day he sent a text message and I told him we were suppose to go out yesterday and that he was flaky. Then from that day I stopped responding to his messages. He continued messaging me everyday for another three weeks saying sorry that it was a miscommunication but I just ignored his messages. If that's how he was treating me and we even haven't been on a date then I'm not interested to have a relationship with him.

[Sportster2005]

Normally I would just back off and say screw it and move on,

 

Do what you normally do above. It's puzzling because you haven't dealt with it before. Next you won't be puzzled and you will know what to do right away. The 'why' of these things are irrelevant.