Ex has new boyfriend, feeling pretty dire

[whu647580]

Hey guys thanks for reading, I've just had a pretty rough night and need somewhere to vent, as my friends are all understandably sick if hearing all my crap. So basically, I broke up with my ex a bit over 5 months ago. In this te I've only spoken to her once, andeassaged her once to which I got no reply. It's been a while since we split and since then I've had plenty of fun times and met lots of new and exciting people. I met one girl at a party a while back and we exchanged numbers and stuff but ultimately it came to nothing. The past few weeks I've found a new lease on life, got out of my depression and stuf really made Big strides towards gettig over her.However, last night at a party i found out my ex has a new bf. And now

I feel TERRIBLE. I know I shouldn't care, but I guess it's just that final conformation that yes, it's well and truly done and dusted between us. I don't know how long they've been together or where they met, but the thought of the girl I loved so much saying and doing the things she did with me with somebody else just sickens me. I'm quite an obsessive person, so much so that I barely slept Once I got home cos I just couldn't stop thinking about it. A couple of mates who have seen my ex since we broke up say she's changed and not for the better, and that her new bf's a bit of a weird guy, but they didn't know her like I did.

[manicdogbert]

I know how you feel. I'm almost two years post break-up. A few months back, I (foolishly) did some snooping on Facebook and found out that my ex had a new boyfriend. Someone that he was probably seeing as far back as March 2011. (Note: we broke up in Oct 2010.)

 

I wasn't completely devastated because I have made great strides in healing but it did bother me because I guess there was a small part of me that was kind of hoping that he was still pining for me or maybe he would even realize he made a mistake. And I had a fantasy that maybe he try to come back to and that I would totally reject him. (Silly thinking, I know.) But in finding out he had a new boyfriend, I realized that none of that would ever happen.

 

But there's a POSITIVE thing about all this. Now that you KNOW that she has a new boyfriend and there's NOTHING that you can do to change that, your ONLY choice now is to MOVE ON to newer and better things.

[Avila]

i feel for you. my very recent ex still loves me and is in a very weird rebound. it nearly broke me in half when i found out but just know that, what is happening right now is meant to happen. also, her life is her life. it has nothing to do with you. she's free to make her own mistakes and you yours. just keep moving forward, acknowledge your feelings and try not to obsess. when you do just remember that there is absolutely no point (easier said than done, i know.) put it in a little mental box and put it out of your mind.

 

but i know how you feel. it makes me ill when i think of my ex doing things with her that he did with me. especially because we were dynamite in bed she's honestly so inferior to me that it's a joke. makes no sense. but anyway. his actions are his, not mine and they have nothing to do with me. the same goes for you and your ex. keep your chin up and don't let her take any more of your power away from you. good luck!

[whu647580]

Thanks guys. I've been thinking about it, and really the reason we feel bad about our ex's being with someone else is because we

A) feel like we've been replaced

B) feel inferior because we haven't met anybody yet and they have

C) find it hard to fathom them saying all the things they said to us to another person

 

 

But anyways, I actually saw her today at the local university, we saw each other from about 50 metres away and shesoyght of awkwardly waved at me and kept walking. Iit was the worst feeling ever, k owing that that was the girl whom I first fell in love with now has the kind of relationship with me where we barely akbilodge each other.

[MarnDark]

This is positively the worst feeling, I know it too well. My ex got with a new guy two weeks after she dumped me. You'd have to be made of stone for this kind of news to not affect you. Keep up with your own life man, gotta remember that this happens to a lot of people out there and the pain is an essential life experience. It is true that some people are just meant to be in our lives temporarily and then... That's it. It's a sad reality but eventually it just becomes normal.

 

It just has to.