How do men feel about their girfirends suggesting they watch porn together??

[Coconut Twin]

Hi,

 

Just wondering about this. I find it ultra kinky for a guy to masturbate to porn in front of me, it gets me extremely excited. I did it once with one of my ex's, but I wonder if it's strange to want that? It's not an obsession or anything but it's change from the usual stuff and spices up the relationship I think. Maybe this is slightly naive question to ask, but I really get a huge kick seeing him wank to other women in front of me.

 

When I did ask my ex at the time, he first seemed sort of surprised, but unsure whether to agree or not, and I'm thinking that he thought I was bluffing or testing him.

 

Sometimes I find him looking at me more than whats going on in the porn clip which isn't the point. I think it's more a turn on for me than them really and maybe it has something to do with men preferring to watch porn alone??

 

How do you guys feel about this? Would you do it if your GF asked?

 

Cheers

[lukeb]

It is a particular kind of kink, some people might be into it, and some won't so it really doesn't matter what any of of think. As far as kinks go it is a very mild one. He may be into it, or he may not, I wouldn't look at it as a reflection on your relationship if he isn't. I guess the ability to talk to your partner openly about your kinks would be.

[Roxie84]

I literally JUST wrote about this in a post haha.. I know you're looking for the male's perspective, but I can honestly tell you I have had quite a few boyfriends/sex partners in my day, and none of them have been turned off by this. There are many women who hate when their man watches porn, so when they see how open their girl is to watching with them, it can be a huge turn on.

 

If your man enjoys this, there are a few ways you can make it interesting: As you said, watching him enjoy the movie is fun! You can also offer to perform oral sex on him as he watches. AND a fun way to role play or act out fantasies is to mimic what is happening in the movie.

 

Sorry if this is very graphic for some people - I manage an adult store and have read probably every book written on the topic.. a lot of people come to be for advice on things like this

[pl3asehelp]

I don't think it has anything to do with the porn specifically, but rather with the girl initiating or expressing interest in having a sexual experience, which most guys enjoy.

[Coconut Twin]

lol Roxie - nice to have someone rowing in the same boat

 

Yes I used to perform some serious oral on him whist he watched and play with myself. He loved it, but initially he was a little taken a back. I think because if he was going to do porn it'd be on his own tod.

[Pinnacle]

Personally, this is something I would not consider doing. If I have a girlfriend, and I want to get off, why would I waste the energy on myself rather than spend it on her? The orgasm is MUCH MUCH MUCH better with her and it's infinitely more fun. Besides, going solo isn't something I have done for months and I want to cut it out of my life entirely. I wouldn't even want to watch porn together. That's just a weird boundary I don't want to cross for me anyway.

[Coconut Twin]

I don't think it has anything to do with the porn specifically, but rather with the girl initiating or expressing interest in having a sexual experience, which most guys enjoy.

 

 

Ok cool.

[Coconut Twin]

mistake..................................

[Coconut Twin]

Personally, this is something I would not consider doing. If I have a girlfriend, and I want to get off, why would I waste the energy on myself rather than spend it on her? The orgasm is MUCH MUCH MUCH better with her and it's infinitely more fun. Besides, going solo isn't something I have done for months and I want to cut it out of my life entirely. I wouldn't even want to watch porn together. That's just a weird boundary I don't want to cross for me anyway.

 

 

We were together for quite a long time and I think it was nice to try something different to spice up the relationship.

[Glowguy]

I wouldn't hesitate at all and it would probably be a turn on for me if the roles were reversed.

[Roxie84]

Hey Pinnacle - if that's your own boundary that's totally cool! Everyone's sexuality is unique and wonderful However, when you're in a long term relationship and plain old sex is getting to be routine, or when you're with a partner who is very experimental and you enjoy trying new things, watching porn together is just one activity on a long list of things to explore. Yes I agree, there are many guys who often just want to be along with their porn for 15 mins to get off - that's something they want to do in private, which is totally fine (some girls don't like it when they're in a relationship with him, but that's a whole separate issue).

 

Mutual masterbation and voyeurism are sexual thing that many partners like to experiment with. Some like it, some don't. I wouldn't judge either way

[DrkRaven]

I say go for it. Guys like it. Well I do anyway.

It took me a while to get into it, but its something my fiancee and i do together occasionally. Its like foreplay for us when we do it. I dont have an issue with it. I was actually surprised when she suggested it, but it turned out to be kinda fun. It was funny selecting what to watch and then for us to to watch it together and to watch her masturbate...yeah I like it

[Coconut Twin]

Hehehe JBE, I so relate to this ^^

[DrkRaven]

Hehehe JBE, I so relate to this ^^

 

Lol. I think she gets idea for stuff she wants to try from it lol. I swear i ask her occasionally "where did THAT move come from" and she just smiles. lol. I love my girl.

[Coconut Twin]

I love my girl.

 

nice :strawberry:

[InvisibleWound]

Me and my boyfriend have watched porn together while having sex. And masturbated each other while watching. Not many times but it doesn't bother either of us, and it usually equals good orgasms so I think it turns us both on.

[yagami]

Depends on what kind of porn she watches. Out of interest OP, may I know what kind of porn you watch?

[Coconut Twin]

I don't know if I want to disclose that But pretty much anything that doesn't involve anal gaping, fist and anything else that look's terribly painful and abnormal..

[Thorshammer]

In my experience, if you are kinky, start that way. Its very hard to get into it after sex has become routine. I say dumb things, do dumb things, right after the second tor third day of sex. I dont judge women on any of their taste, you should feel free to express yourself. My only turn off is anything close to my butt, or adding someone in. Though, i dont find a women touching herself while i watch to be a turn on, and i dont like touching myself if a perfectly good vagina is a few feet from me- but i do it if she wants it.

[Coconut Twin]

Yea I get your point. I guess it's more for my pleasure than his because I always find him looking at me rather than the porn.

[In the Dark]

It makes sense to me.

If found it hot watching my previous partners masturbate to porn.

[PaintWithLight]

I do not see any problem with your request or preference. Anything shared together reduces the chance of secrets and shameful feelings. I guess the only question for me is why more women don't share your views?? ;-)

[Fantanos]

If it turned on my girl I would do it, I think it might turn me on too. I know it is a huge turn on to watch a girl masturbate for me. I would be very happy if my girl told me that me masturbating turned her on. I know I am willing to do anything that keeps her turned on and make her happy.