Ex dressing up during child exchange, why?

[bobbydigital83]

I would like to ask for some help understanding this. My ex basically cheated many times over and when I discovered it, she kicked me to the curb. She left thinking I was a waste of her time basically. This occurred roughly 3 years ago. The question I will get too has been occurring even to this day.

 

She always had some sort of belief that she was far superior in almost every way. The more things went sour on my own life (such as being laid off), the more she took that as an entitlement to get away with anything I guess.

 

I am not someone who really shows off and even though I loved her a lot, I think seeing what she became when my life was in a rough spot ... I would never be interested in her no matter what. She has been steadfast and since the very day we broke up, she proclaimed many times over that I am beneath her and the best decision she ever made.

 

Here is my question. We do share a child together. During times when we exchange our child, I don't do anything out of the ordinary. I come in pajamas or gym clothes and do my best to not show off any kind of success to her. I basically think its best that I don't do or get into any kind of "im better without you" kinda competition. She on the other hand, dresses up with fancy clothes, jewelry, shades and will wear breast enhancing bra's (she is a small "A" cup in breast size but will wear bra's that make her look like a big "B"). I know they are not implants because when she is in her work clothes, her big "B's" become tiny "A's."

 

On emails and text messages, she keeps it really short and blunt in a cold fashion and is basically the same in person. Sometimes with a "cold shoulder" attitude.

 

I try not to pay attention but its hard to question what she might be up to. I keep asking myself... "Is she trying to show off, impress me, her way of saying she better off or is she trying to provoke jealousy out me/make me upset???" Sometimes we have ran into times were we have to exchange our child very early or very late and she will look all dressed up for the occasion. One time, she had skin tight pants where you could totally see her figure along with a skin tight shirt were her bra enhanced boobs are basically about to rip out of her shirt.

 

She constantly accuses me of wanting her back and stuff but I really don't anymore and anytime we have things we don't agree on regarding our child, she always said something to "your just bitter." I have made it clear that I never deserved the wrong things she has done but I still wish her the best. Her verbal and body language gives off a "I'm better than you, your not worth my time" kinda vibe but the way she dresses around me gives off a "I want you bad!" vibe.

 

I don't want to question her personally because its not something that should be even mentioned but could she be doing this intentionally? If so, why?

I just think it might be some sort of twisted strategy to provoke some sort of anger out of me so it could be used against me. That's a wild guess but its something I could see her doing.

 

Thanks for helping me understand this...

[pippy longstocking]

yeah everything you said ....

 

 

what you are supposed to be doing is chasing her ..begging her back ..telling her how fabulous she is , how amazing she looks,

asking where she is going because she looks good ....asking if she has met someone ..throwing a fit of jelous rage when you see her ....telling her you can't live without her ..

 

your not supposed to just carry on and actually be ok and over her ..god forbid you can have a life !!!!

 

 

good for you for not taking the bait ....don't, not ever ..she will soon get sick of her own games ..you held onto your self

respect and just moved on ....anyone who is up their own backsides that much will have fallen down to earth with a huge bang when you didn't beg her etc etc etc ...

 

your doing the right thing ...respect for that .

[chickydoodle]

Yes you have answered your own questions. She is trying to manipulate a reaction of some sort and

 

God! how observant are you! I thought most guys fell for those bra enhancement tricks.

[bobbydigital83]

Thanks for replying. I really hope that eventually she will stop but it does worry me because if she is trying to provoke some sort of anger out of me, then she might start doing more daring things to get me in trouble. I can't believe how immature she has become.

[Snowy]

I keep asking myself... "Is she trying to show off, impress me, her way of saying she better off or is she trying to provoke jealousy out me/make me upset???"

 

This.

 

Probably playing the jealousy game.

[Sportster2005]

The way she dresses may have absolutely nothing to do with you. She may not be trying to do anything at all. Your assumptions and speculation may be entirely baseless. It's been three years. Get over her. You shouldn't be wasting a nano second of thought on this.