Day 5 of NC!!

[kthomas5]

Today I made a big mistake... I pumped myself up enough nerve to reactivate my Facebook and Twitter. As soon as I saw my ex flirting on Twitter my chest collapsed. I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or it happened and that's what he does now. I started no contact after being friends for a month after the break up. He told me, he wants to be with me and once he figures himself out he hopes we can begin to date again. Here is where I get confused. He gets baptized at my church this Sunday and this seems like he's taking a step forward to make progress but he acts like a dog on twitter and every time I look around he's going to a party. I don't feel like I can trust a word he says. That is the main reason I started NC, for myself to heal because I feel another heartache coming if I sit and wait on him to become the man I deserve. It's like it's all moving in slow motion. My head is fighting my heart daily. I want to move on but my heart is telling me, "You love him, he loves you the same, just give him time to come around". I just need to get it together. I really want to become stronger and more independent and for him to get it together and for us to come together and have something amazing. I guess that's just wishful thinking.

[FrenchFries]

Either get back off facebook or unfriend or block him from your view. His actions toward you (or lack thereof) are telling you everything you need to know. Stay NC.

[ClarityCoast]

It sounds like you are wanting to fall in love with an idealized version of him..

We all do this. But ask yourself if the Mr. Perfect in your head is actually what you SEE.

 

Truthfully, I don't think there is a perfect connection between baptism and Christian behavior.

I know an awful lot of people who attend Church regularly on Sunday...who I've seen dancing on bar tables on Saturday night.

 

He may be in a process of figuring out who he wants to be.

That's not a period in someone's life where a sane relationship usually takes place.

 

Keep being the good person that you are and keep living by example.

He may follow your lead...but you can't bring him there.