swchiiz Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 First of all, I am not good with words.. So i'll try my best to explain as clearly as possible.. Me and My ex has been in a relationship for 1 year and 4 months.. we broke up a month ago.. to be precise, we broke up on the 26th of may, she said she needed some space and that we are not suited for each other anymore (I think its bull****)... what shocked me the most is, she already has a new BF now... and I also know that her anniversary is on the 2nd of June.. cheated? perhaps.. It crippled me knowing she moved one so fast.... But that's not the question i am going to ask.. What I want to know is.. why is she still calling me? i have been doing NC for around 2 weeks... last week on the 19th of June she called me and I happened to pick up her calls, she was just asking how I'm doing and I ask about her job.. nothing fancy just a casual conversation... for about 2 minutes... And then again NC continues... all of a sudden, yesterday (4th of July) she called me again at 10AM in the morning, twice.. But I didnt answer... she didnt leave any text message either.. So I just texted her today (5th of July, 5 min ago), asking why she called yesterday and that I didnt hear her calling because I silent my phone (Which is true).. still no reply.. What I want to know is... why does she keeps calling me? I still love her, But she has moved on and I have accepted that.. I dont want to be a douche and destroy her relationship because I don't want karma chasing over me (though deep inside i still want her back) Please advise.
RitaTrue Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 First, stop answering her calls. She has nothing of real value to say to you. Plus, you're shooting yourself in the foot. Second, why do exes call when you're on NC? Some like attention. Others like a back up plan. Some like the ego boost. Others like feeling special. But many feel good knowing that you haven't moved on. You know her best to know which of these sound most like her. She's moved on, albeit in an ******* manner, but nevertheless she's done. You, on the other hand, have not moved on, so talking to her still will only hurt you.
dasilver Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 First, stop answering her calls. She has nothing of real value to say to you. Plus, you're shooting yourself in the foot. Second, why do exes call when you're on NC? Some like attention. Others like a back up plan. Some like the ego boost. Others like feeling special. But many feel good knowing that you haven't moved on. You know her best to know which of these sound most like her. She's moved on, albeit in an ******* manner, but nevertheless she's done. You, on the other hand, have not moved on, so talking to her still will only hurt you. ^^^^^....Well said... She's curious....nothing more. She broke up with you because she feels you are not suited for each other. She now has a new boyfriend she feels she is probably more suited with (her choice). She will call you again....and keep calling you until she has weaned herself off of you. I agree with RitaTrue....don't answer any more of her calls.
Sportster2005 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 You've got two excellent answers. Going to be a short thread The 'why' is irrelevant.
swchiiz Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 Thanks guys I'll try my best to ignore her.. appreciate the help..
MasterPo Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 She will call you again....and keep calling you until she has weaned herself off of you. I have to agree with this one. She threw you under the emo bus and never looked back. You survived and now she's curious how you did it.
RitaTrue Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I have to agree with this one. She threw you under the emo bus and never looked back. You survived and now she's curious how you did it. Great analogy here.
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