Is there reasoning behind my feelings or is it plain jealousy?

[Alex39]

So my best friend and I have been friends for four years.Recently, I feel a hint of anger towards her. She met an older guy and they started dating. Two months in he moved far away accross the country, and she is like in love with him. I get annoyed when she rants about him, because she barely knows him. We got in a litte fight over it but we both let it go. I also secretly get annoyed, because I had met a guy a year earlier and knew him very well and she always downed me saying "There's no way you love him you barely know him", and she would always down the guy as well. I felt that she had no justification judging me or him, because I had know him for almost 6 months and spent everyday with him. Now that she is in love with this new guy no one else matters to her. She hints to me all the time that she wouldnt mind moving somewhere new ( with him) because she wants to start a new life, because she feels that she has no one here for her anyway. This hurts my feelings, because does our friendship mean nothing to her?? She is draining her bank account to fly out to see him when he has only been gone for like two months. I don't want her to get hurt and I might be a little jealous of him and all the attention she gives him.I don't know what to do, but I feel like she doesn't care about anything but him anymore. She even cancelled our plans the other day because I think she had a skype date with him. Am I being bitter??

[chickydoodle]

There is a little jealousy going on - but its understandable.

True friendship means

-putting up with the endless, boring chatter when they have met someone new ( even if they didnt tolerate it from you);

- accepting them putting their new found Love before you;

- ignoring their dazed , unfocused look as they dont listen to what you are saying but are just thinking of him.

- forgiving them for doing to you what they have *****ed about others doing to them.

-being happy for their happiness even if you feel it is shortlived.

-letting them make their own mistakes without judgement and criticism.

-letting them go, if they need to move to a different state and not feeling hurt if you suddenly dont count in their lives.

 

It is just a phase; probably an infatuation where it is usual for all other r'ships to be tossed out the window.

 

They are like r'ships in a way and it is important not to be too dependent on them IMO