Springs Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Hi I am absolutely terrified right now. Unfortunately I had sex on saturday night with a guy I have been in touch with for a few months, who had asked me out before but I declined. I said let's just try to be friends. I'm still getting over an ex and not interested in him. Anyway I got really really drunk on saturday and saw this guy out. I don't really remember him coming home but I do remember lying on my bed crying about my ex to this guy. Next thing we're having sex I feel like maybe he took a little advantage of me but not blaming him because I know I make my own choices. I feel so disgusting about it and feel like I hate myself Now he did use a condom cos I found it in my bin the next morning, and I wanted to make sure it had been used ok so I checked it. It had a knot in it and a very small amount of fluid. This really worries me because I am afraid some maybe seeped out? I've had a lot of discharge over the past couple of days and I'm afraid it could be semen?? I'm so so so scared. I'm 26 and I'm leaving the country to go travelling for a year next week. I keep thinking if I am pregnant I will have to have an abortion and I feel so awful about it. Someone please help me I'm going crazy. Is it normal for there not to seem a lot of fluid in the condom?
chitown9 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 There is a difference between discharge and semen. Can you make the distinction?
OptomisticGirl Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 There is a difference between discharge and semen. Can you make the distinction? This. Plus, not all guys have the same volume of semen.
Springs Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 There is a difference between discharge and semen. Can you make the distinction? Well it can be difficult to tell. The discharge changes depending on the time of day. Sometimes it is more yellowy in colour and sometimes it is clear and there is loads of it. It just seems so much more than usual and worries me. I guess this is the time of month I am ovulating as well which increases the risk after sex I felt really really wet down there and I know there are all sorts of fluids involved in intercourse that could cause that feeling but it really worries me.
OptomisticGirl Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Well it can be difficult to tell. The discharge changes depending on the time of day. Sometimes it is more yellowy in colour and sometimes it is clear and there is loads of it. It just seems so much more than usual and worries me. I guess this is the time of month I am ovulating as well which increases the risk Of you had sex on Saturday semen would not be seeping out still on Wednesday.
Springs Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Of you had sex on Saturday semen would not be seeping out still on Wednesday. I am not getting so much discharge now.. I should have clarified that was Sunday/monday
OptomisticGirl Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I am not getting so much discharge now.. I should have clarified that was Sunday/monday Even then if there was any leakage you really wouldn't have had any past a few hours after sex. Was the condom tore?
Springs Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 I checked it and it didn't seem to have any holes in it. But really with any other guy I've been with there's been much more fluid in the condom than this. At first glance it seemed like there really wasn't any at all and then when I looked a little closer (gross I know) there was just a tiny little bit at the bottom. That makes me think that it leaked or something. I am so so scared and I have noone to talk to about this. I want to enjoy my last couple of weeks before I go travelling and I am just a nervous wreck because I keep thinking what will happen if my period doesn't come and I'm in the other side of the world facing having an abortion I don't know how to stop this feeling!!!
OptomisticGirl Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 As I said, not every guy has the same volume of sperm. Did you take the morning after pill?
Springs Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 No I didn't as I was working and then in a rush to get a flight back to my hometown. It's too late now do you think the chances are against me? I told him I was a little worried and he just shrugged it off and said he used something so it's fine.
OptomisticGirl Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I honestly think your over reacting to the situation. He used a condom and it looked like there were no tears, the guy himself isn't worried.... I think your okay, just let time tell.
Snowy Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Jules, I think the chances are in your favour. Condoms are pretty reliable, and given the fact that they didn't break, you should be protected. Also, even if some fluid seeped out, it's pretty unlikely that you'd get pregnant from it because it's probably not deep enough in. Plus, the guy isn't even worried. You'll be fine.
DylanNotorious Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I think your really over-reacting and I think you need to calm down. I don't think your pregnant if he used a condom.
Springs Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Thanks for your input. I haven't told anyone I slept with him so have just been bottling up the worry inside, plus I'm off work now cos I'm going away so have a lot of time to sit around and just worry. I don't know whether I'm just letting myself get carried away or whether there really is a chance considering there was hardly any stuff in the damn thing. I have never wanted my period to come sooooooo bad in my life!!!
amipushy Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 You can always use the morning after pill as it can be taken up to 5 days later if you are REALLY worried. But obviously, the sooner the better if its what you decide.
Springs Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 I thought it needed to be used within 72 hours? I am really going crazy with worry. I know some people might think I am overreacting but if I am pregnant I will be in such an awful position. This should be such an exciting time for me and I wish I could look forward to my trip but I am so sick with worry. I think I would have been ovulating at the time we had sex, and I think my period should be due next week, so when is the soonest I could take a test?
SamiJayne Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 depending on the test, maybe a few days before your periods due. And if you periods late a few days after its late. Your period may be late, due to stress. You should think about getting on birth control, your 26! Going on a long trip, do you want to risk getting in this situation again? Get the implant, or coil before you go. or a yrs supply of the pill!
Springs Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 I had been on the pill but just ran out and I will definitely get myself back on it again... if I'm not pregnant already I have just ordered the EllaOne pill online which apparentely can be taken 5 days after sex. Has anyone had any experience of this?
Springs Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 I am still extremely worried about my situation. I think the reason why I am THIS worried is because of the fact that I am going thousands of miles away from home in just over a week and surely I should be having some kind of plan in place in case I am pregnant? I took a home pregnancy test just to ease my mind.. it was negative but of course, only 4 days after sex it will not be accurate. I'll re-test again next week before I go, if my period doesn't come by then. I am so afraid and feel so alone. This is the scariest time of my life. If I am pregnant I will face being in a foreign country with little money, facing spending potentially thousands on an abortion. I'm so scared of what it will do to me emotionally and feel so guilty even for considering it but I really don't see any other option. I just wish there was a way to tell for sure if I am pregnant or not!!
Springs Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 Don't worry everything will be okay. It might not be ok.. it might be horrendous I don't think I am over reacting I think I am just being practical and considering the worst case scenario. I am so so worried it's all I can think about. I haven't really been eating or sleeping. I am pretty sure thinking back on it that the discharge I had the next morning was semen. I am almost 100% sure. I told one friend about this but I can't bear to tell anyone else. I am so ashamed of myself. I feel like I hate myself for getting in this position
Snowy Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 You can never be sure. Sometimes girls discharge can be milky and look exactly like semen. I've mistakened for it before too. Try to take your mind off it as much as possible. Not eating or sleeping will only make things worse. I'm pretty sure you're not pregnant.
Springs Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 I don't really know when as the whole thing just confuses me: I had sex on 1st July, my period should be due around 11th july, but it is not always regular. I already took a test and it was negative but I know it's too early. Does that mean I can test next wednesday 11th? Since that is when my period is due even if it is only 10-11 days after intercourse?
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