Advice...........please x

[Maxijazz]

Hi there,

 

I need advice, this is really becoming a real heart breaker and I think I know I need to walk. I have been single for a number of years and finally met a guy who I actually want to be with, feel myself with, laugh with and think 100% falling in love with. It has only been 4 months or so but I thought there was a real connnection.

 

I tent to over think things so looking for assistance. He is same age has me and so mif thirties, he is legally separated from 1 year and 6 months with 2 kids. His ex stays in the ex martial home with he kids and their relationship is strained to say the least. They are in contact, try and get on for sake of the little ones but I think they come to blows (so he says). Anyway - one night after we had made love, she constantly had been texting him asking is he was ok to which he wa replying fine - she advised she had a bad feeling and wanted to ensure he was ok. I was astounded at his texts back and forth as openened a line of communication which could have easily been **** down after 2 texts t confrm yes I am ok. He says he now realises this was not right and would not happen again. Anyway - he gets the kids every 2nd weekend for the full weekend and also one midweek night and hey taht's just how it is and no way in any way abnnoyed at that, but, sometimes we can go full week without seeing one another and when I say when are we catching up I get texts to say he has had so much on and i just give up readion them half way through - one week we acn be together fri / sat and sun and stay throughout that weekend and also its more texts as opposed to phone calls. I know work is very busy but surely if you want to see somene you do ? I text his yesterday saying when do you want to catch up and he never responded, there was some crisis and that is what he text about - drama ensued until about 9pm and he text again saying was hoping to catch up last ngiht uintil all the drama with work unfolded - no mention of the fact the issue I raised with tonight being out as kids night, tomrrow being out as I have a work this and he has kids all weekend so we will be into next week. I had it out with him last week and he seemed really hurt and said he only wants to be with me which sometimes is the case as we had a fantastic weekend where we had dinners, met my brother for dinnner, went a drive to country for nice late supper and romantic drive and finished off sunday with much of the same - I start calming and thinking all ok then I hear nothing and all busy! He also says will call sometimes and does not, I ask him if its ok to call as I did last night and know his work is but no response to that - just starts talking about something else

 

I am now breakig this down thinking ok, he is still married - I am single - he has kids - i do not and I live a great lief great friends and great social life - I feel I should move in and find sopmeone who really wants me for me and not (which I am beginning to think) want me around for nice weekend distraction

[pinkelephant]

I'm having trouble following your posts, but if he's still married and only separated, I would steer clear. Wait til his divorce is finalized and time for him to accept it before getting into a relationship. He's going to go through many emotions and it's not fair for you to drag into someone else's mess.