shebsheb1137 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Okay, so I am in a newer relationship officially. However, we had been talking for four and a half months before he asked me out. We usually are wanting to be with each other quite a bit, and text non-stop because we always have something to say to eachother, such as flirting. We both are pretty sick, as he has tonsillitis and he is having a horrible time with it, and I am dealing with a lot of other issues. I am one of those people that likes to a lot to people, and he loves to talk when he feels good. I know he doesn't feel good, and neither do I but I want to be cuddled up in his arms. He says he is happiest when I am in his arms, and with the 4th of July being tomorrow, he has a day off. Well, we were planning on being together the whole day just watching movies and being lazy until fireworks. Well, I am not sure what to do. I want to be with him, but I don't want to crowd him. What should I do?
chitown9 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I think what you are planning sounds ok as long as you cannot pass something contagious to each other. All day might be too tiring for him, so it would be appropriate to ask him to tell you if he is getting tired and would rather rest. Show consideration......... 4th of July..chi
shebsheb1137 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 As far as contagious, we don't have anything that is contagious. LOL but yeah I thought that might be too long, and I have told him to tell me. I have a ton of consideration for him, and I have told him if he just doesn't feel up to it, that he should let me know and I will understand because I will. I just feel like he is so distant, and its kind of killing me because I have no idea what to talk about right now, because he is very short in his answers and it kind of brings up my insecurities. I have been left before and I don't want to loose him.
pinkelephant Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Aw. I understand how that feels! I think the only thing you can do is to let him know it's cool if he wants to cancel, even last minute. Once you're there, see how he is. If he seems out of it, offer some soup and then tell him to rest. If he seems to want you to stay, then stay. I liked having my bf around when I was sick... but I know some people don't like that at allll. Don't try to read his mind, that's where the paranoia will creep in. Just play it by ear! Hope you two feel better. =)
shebsheb1137 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Thank you for your advice! I appreciate your input. Yeah idk how much to do as it is a newer relationship and I am kind of a mothering type. He stayed the night this weekend and I made everything such as comfort food. I dont know if he is a big soup fan but it is SUPER hot here, as in 99° and a heat index with a huge percentage of humidity, bringing the heat index to 110-115°so soup would probably make him uncomfortable. Its a tough situation. With my sickness, my doctors have yet to figure out whats going on but they fear its cancer. So with that, its tough on me. But I have yet to really get crabby, even with the fear, so with that I dont understand why he is crabby. But none the less, I still accept him and love him. But shhhhh he doesnt know it he knows I am behind him 100% no matter what
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