Tearsbegone Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 I agree with your last line but now he has fallen in love and jumped right into a full blown relationship- so it's done. I can't do anything this stage.
Shake Spear Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 I agree with your last line but now he has fallen in love and jumped right into a full blown relationship- so it's done. I can't do anything this stage. Yeah I have read your posts Pene, i am sorry to say, but i think you really need to move on at this point. For your own sake. Now; this may sound stupid, but it really helped me to heal. 1) Make a list of what qualities you seek in a partner 2) Make a list of our exes good/bad qualities 3) Make a list of your own good/bad qualities 4) Make a list of what qualities you seek in your ideal partner 5) Make a list if things you enjoy to do 6) Make a weekly schedule, and make sure to put at least two of those things in that schedule each day BAM! You knock them right of that pedestal you put them on, suddenly you are occupied and doing your own stuff. There are lots of wonderful people out there, don't put all your efforts into one person. I am sure you are a wonderful girl, and some man would be happy to have you My point: You need to appreciate and love yourself before your ex does it
seoulmate Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 ^^^^^....hmmmm...I thought we were here to give our advice and opinions and also to give folks a shoulder to cry on. Your last sentence was a little harsh. I feel sorry for people going through break-ups. They hurt..and badly too. People have killed themselves because of a broken heart. Some people just aren't as strong as others. (((hugs))) to you Pene... This would be prudent (and applicable) if that were my first post on a "Pene thread". It isn't. It's probably my 20th, answering the same questions that she has of a man, who has left her. And each time I work on giving sound, proper, advice. At what point do we stop 'consoling' and start trying to truly heal? You find my last sentence hard but Pene started a new thread within 30 minutes of the "I'll stop posting" comment and out came the same questions. Look at this forum. People hang on her for several years admitting they still aren't over their exes and asking the same questions. When they reply to other member's threads it starts with a bit of advice but quickly leads into a rehash of THEIR story. Pene has many problems in her life that she has outlined in brief detail. She is struggling with a bunch of issues but the one she can truly control is to let go of her ex and begin to heal. Yes, the (hugs) are appropriate....but when do hugs turn into something more useful for her to work with. I don't come on here to ridicule. But when I give my honest advice and the OP replies with "I'll stop posting"...(followed by a new thread minutes later)....then I'll call them out.
dumPI Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 off topic ... being Spanish everytime I read pene I have a laugh ... and this "pene thread" thing just broke me down
flow90 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 off topic ... being Spanish everytime I read pene I have a laugh ... and this "pene thread" thing just broke me down haha dumPI, a mi me paso lo mismo!
dasnico Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 what is LC? I know NC I always thought LC meant "low contact", meaning you don't talk often, but the lines of communication are open.
Tearsbegone Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 ^^^^^....hmmmm...I thought we were here to give our advice and opinions and also to give folks a shoulder to cry on. Your last sentence was a little harsh. I feel sorry for people going through break-ups. They hurt..and badly too. People have killed themselves because of a broken heart. Some people just aren't as strong as others. (((hugs))) to you Pene... Thanks- I feel like people keep saying I'm repeating myself, but I honestly can't think straight and have no other support.
Tearsbegone Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 Thanks for your advice. I am working on myself. Sadly I feel he is the one. So I will just try my best to get myself better.
Tearsbegone Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 How about you just don't respond to me? Ignore it.
seoulmate Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 No problem, Pene. If this is how you deal with your problems then best of luck to you in life.
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