Moving on

[Confused8526]

I find myself trying to move on, but I feel as if I have nothing to move on too. Then I go and check up on her via social media and it kills me to see she is well moved on and loving life. The feeling and tingle that goes through my body and lingers is devastating. Where as if you know my story it's so hard for me to accept given the fact that the feelings were so strong 2 weeks ago after staying away for a month, but now knows for sure she made the right decision and feels nothing and wishes we never met. It's getting worse everyday. Any ideas how to kick this addiction

[corgidude]

Stop checking up on her. That path only leads to madness, because you'll be scouring every word, every picture for some evidence of whether or not she's happy and comparing her life to your own.

 

The best way to kick an addiction is to quit feeding into it... if a person's addicted to heroin, they're not going to break the addiction if they keep dosing. You need to stop "dosing" yourself by following her every social media post. If you're friends with her on Facebook, it's time to block her profile. -Nothing she posts, even if it's on a mutual friends' wall, will show up in your feeds. Do something to prevent yourself from checking up on her, because every time you do, you're only hurting yourself and setting your healing further back. This is for your own mental well-being. What she is or isn't doing is no longer something you need to concern yourself with. NC doesn't work very well if you keep crippling yourself by seeking out the details of her personal life.

[jmay9753]

In my own issue that was similar to this I had to just completely give up the social media kick. I deactivated my Facebook account. Even though we were no longer friends on there we had so many mutual friends that it was hard to not end up seeing something about her and it would just send me spiraling on a downward path again. This was the best move I made to get me through the struggle of it. Yeah your still gonna worry about her and your gonna wonder what shes doing. The longer you can go without checking it the better off you'll be. Yeah your gonna feel kinda lost and left out but me personally I don't miss checking my fb and knowing what's happening. I kinda enjoy it better without knowing. Things will get better in time. I know you probably don't wanna hear that but speaking from experience it does. Good luck to you. I know the feeling all to well.

[dasilver]

Couldn't agree with the above statement more...

 

I too deactivated my Facebook account. My ex and i have so many mutual friends...blocking would be no use.

 

It feels much better not knowing what he's doing and quite frankly i think it's best i don't know...

 

Staying away from social media is absolutely a great way to help the healing process..

 

I hope you can kick the habit...