Not sure what to do

[coulditbe]

Hey guys i have heard great things bout this site, quick insight me and my GF have had a rocky last year (We have been together 2 and half years), I lover her very much but at the start of the year 2011 we had problems i was young and liked to party and stay out late with friends, id also tell the odd lie (i missed the train so am going to stay at a friends) i never once cheated but i would party a little bit to much. We broke up around january for 2 months and got back together early march, the first couple of weeks of being back together where great, (She had planned to go do camp america so we only had a few months of time together). Then here was times after the intial say 3 weeks off her being distant, we had a huge argument one morning and i decided to leave she sent me a long e-mail explaining that shes scared because shes confused by her feelings. She said she adores me and loves me to bits and can see us in the future with a family and everything. Shes concerned she said though because even the little things i do at times really annoy her, she said she always thinks am up to something or planning something (I planned a boys holiday behind her back) and shes confused. We don't really have sex as much anymore we used to loads over the first 6 months, then when we got back together we did for the first couple off weeks but before she went away we had sex once in 2 months. Shes away at the moment, we had agreed before she went to not speak as much and see how we feel when she returns, its been 3 weeks, last week she messaged saying "I know we haven't taken the in a relationship off facebook but to be honest i dont want to, we have time apart now and we will talk when i get back" am playing it cool she asked me to send her a letter over as last week she was feeling a little homesick (The first 2 weeks she had said had been amazing) so i sent the letter. How do i react as i want to be with her forever but am not sure how she feels?? Any advice would be amazing thank you for reading.

 

 

We are both 27.

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we had agreed before she went to not speak as much and see how we feel when she returns, its been 3 weeks

Just message her and be like "I miss you", be honest, and screw the agreement. Keep in contact with her during these times! Ask her questions, how she feels and all that. She's probably thinking of you most of the time, you're obviously thinking of her.

 

(I planned a boys holiday behind her back)

Start being honest. It's not like she's gonna say NO. Just communicate with her more. Let her know what you're up to, give her peace of mind.

 

she asked me to send her a letter over as last week she was feeling a little homesick

Send her another one, and leave one in her home mailbox for when she gets back. Better yet, if you can send her flowers to where she is right now, do that. Might be a bit pricey but it's worth it in the position you're in right now.

 

we don't really have sex as much anymore

Work a little on all of those things and that'll probably change. It's the little things.

 

How do i react as i want to be with her forever but am not sure how she feels??

You know how you feel. It's time to really show it. She's probably thinking the same thing but doesn't know how you feel.

 

And when she returns from her vacation, have some flowers and chocolate. Corny, but do it.

It seems like communication is the biggest problem here. Let her know how you feel. If you think she looks good with her hair down, tell her. If you like her earrings, tell her. Reassure her of your feelings. Stop telling lies. Spend more time with her, set up a date. All these little things.

[coulditbe]

Thanks buddy communication could be the problem really as we don't speak, i forgot to add the last few weeks before she went away we said we wouldn't be so serious and she seemed so much more chilled out, she has said a few times i dont reassure her i.e she will say i think your up to something and i won't say am not ill just say ok, even though am not haha sorry hope that makes sense. Thanks again i hope your right i just have maybe a little bit low confidence at the moment and dont feel she feels as strongly as i do about her. We will see though.