What number is too much?

[sando]

I find it so difficult to stand any number of ex’s my girl has. The first girl I dated it was three that I knew of, some more and beyond. I will try to get over it, but it doesn’t leave my mind, no matter how hard I try to convince myself. The current girl I have she only slept with three that I know of, and she was 24 when I met her. This thing keeps on coming every time I feel so in love; it pops-up and reminds me about the number. What can I think about to make me feel lucky to have her, what can convince me, the kind of relationship she had can make me feel better, or what number is too much ???

[csr14]

Are you saying 3 is a high number for a 24 year old? Most girls lose their virginity in their teens - 16 I think is the most common age. That's 8 years. Thats one guy every 3 years. That's way less than most girls her age. Promise. But just that - opinion. It depends on the person. Number really depends on the past and if you found a girl who did some really shameful things 3 years ago but is an amazing person now would you reject her? Maybe. It just depends on you but if you get a number that you don't like you need to not penalize her for it, sharing that with a guy is very hard for a girl and if you give her a hard time she will have trouble sharing information with you in the future. Some girls will go through "wild" periods where they may sleep with for example 10 guys in 6 months but the other 8 years since they lost their virginity they only slept with 2 guys - their boyfriends of 3 years each. I went through a bit of a wild period (not ten) but if you didn't count that period of time it was only a couple. Of course you have to count the wild periods too but there is a difference in sleeping with 10 guys over the duration of 8 years vs. 6 months. It really just depends. That's like asking how many marshmallows in the lucky charms is too much? It just depends on who is eating them. Sorry I can't give you a black and white reply. 3 guys for a 24 year old - you should feel pretty lucky yes because most girls her age I would say is hitting around the double digits (10+)

[shadowplay]

What is your number? Is that too high? How do you expect your gfs to relate to your sexual past?

[SuperDuper]

What number is too high? That's a pretty subjective question. Some guys might actually LIKE that their girl has past experience and isn't just lying there like a dead fish not knowing what to do.

 

I think you need to self-reflect and try to pinpoint what is it about her number of past relationships that truly bothers you? Is it that you could just be another number soon enough?

 

I think 3 guys at the age of 24 is low like csr14 said. Many of the girls I associate with (21-25 years old) are likely at 10+ guys from the stories I've heard. It truly doesn't bother me that much, however if I were to really fall for a certain girl... it likely wouldn't be a girl who has that "promiscuous" vibe in the first place; I tend to be attracted to the shy/quiet cute type.

[DrkRaven]

Why are you focusing on the number of guys she has been with in the past? I mean you like her or you dont. The past is teh past and i dont think you should form some type of opinion or hold that against her.

Sorry but...i dunno that irks me that you feel like u need to delve into her history like that. Kind of like you are judging her.

 

Why is it your business again what she did before she met you? if she doesnt have an std or cheating n you why is it your business?

[Glowguy]

Definitely not three. You are going to have an awful lot of trouble finding women who adhere to that standard. It sounds like one is too much for you. I'm not sure why this bothers you so much but it will benefit you to address it as a problem and find ways to solve it. Maybe a therapist would help.