To contact or not to contact?

[spektra]

There is a guy I've crushed on for quite some time a few years ago, but he had a g/f so I did nothing about it.

Last year, I bumped into him unexpectedly, and we spent 2 lovely hours together, over a drink, laughing and joking and I thought we really hit it off. He asked for my number, but then, he never called.

I saw him a couple more times but we just said hi to each other and didn't talk.

 

Fast forward to this weekend, again, we bumped into each other, and again, we hung out 2-3 hours and had a great time. He seemed more into me than before. He took my number again, and he said he'd call the following day so we could go out at night. Nothing. I didn't hear from him.

 

The night we were supposed to hang out, something tragic happened, an ex of mine passed away. This guy knew my ex too.

So the next day, I finally got a call from him, but not to ask me out. Turns out he had heard about my ex passing and didn't know whether I had found out or not, so he wanted to give me the news. We spoke briefly, I told him I knew, and thanked him for thinking about calling to let me know. He didn't say anything else, we said bye and that was that.

 

I do like this guy and would like to meet with him again.Would it be a bad idea to text him towards the end of the week, asking him to let me know if he wanted to do something in the near future? Keep in mind that he didn't call me the day he was supposed to, and he didn't give me any hope for future contact (but that could also be because it wasn't appropriate, given the news we all had just heard about my ex).

Would I seem too desperate if I do text him this? Or should I just keep quiet and hope he'll eventually contact me again? (which I really don't see as a possibility right now).

 

Please give me your opinions, I really don't know what's the best thing to do here...

[tattoobunnie]

First of all, this man loves the thrill of getting you riled up, your number, then never calling, and seeing if you'll accept this behavior. I'd pass on this guy. He can't keep a simple committment, which is to call you. This guy sounds like he will have you walk on egg shells, be hooked, all the while is not that into you.

 

Set your sights on someone who follows through on what they say they will do.

[alwaysmoving]

Eh, what do you have to lose? Shoot him a text but don't have high expectations.

[The_Seeker]

First of all, this man loves the thrill of getting you riled up, your number, then never calling, and seeing if you'll accept this behavior. I'd pass on this guy. He can't keep a simple committment, which is to call you. This guy sounds like he will have you walk on egg shells, be hooked, all the while is not that into you.

 

Set your sights on someone who follows through on what they say they will do.

 

I would do that same thing as well.

 

In that case I should take that advice and apply it to my dating.