Anonymama Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 BG: My ex and I were high school sweethearts. We went to prom together, lost our virginity to one another and dated for part of college. We broke up after almost two years of being together because we realized we just weren't mature enough to handle the way the relationship was going. He wanted to start the process of settling down, and I still wanted to go out and party. I also was curious about what it would be like to date other guys. Three weeks after we broke up my good friend passed away. I spiraled into a depression and went wild with hooking up and dating other guys. My ex wanted to get back together but I wasn't ready. I shouldnt have hung out with him the way I did, I convinced myself that it was his choice to see me, therefore I wasn't causing any harm. Eventually he got tired of my selfish attitude and commenced an NC. He broke NC two months later and we argued. We stopped talking and then I found out he was seeing a mutual friend and I lost it. I was checking his email, IM-ing him, and emailing him constantly. *I also started a new relationship at this time* He wouldn't return my calls but did save my emails. I found out his gf was out of the country and decided to call him and he answered. We spoke for three hours and I was basically told to get out of his life. So I listened and started an NC. I moved in with the guy I was seeing and have been with him for the last six years. I eventually married him and we have one child plus one on the way. I ran into my ex and his gf three years ago at a restaurant when I was with my husband (then boyfriend). My ex asked to speak with me and I stupidly agreed. I was surprised since he left his girlfriend sitting at the table to talk to me. He apologized for his behavior after we broke up and I apologized for mine. He seemed really remorseful about how everything went down and I chose to show little emotion. I just didn't want to give him the satisfaction of a reaction. Anyway, my current is I found out last summer he and mutual friend broke up. Last month he asked a mutual friend if he could get my contact info that he "misses me in a friend way." I sent him a message via Facebook and he sent me a friend request less than an hour later. I didn't accept th request because I wanted to talk to my husband about everything. My husband didn't see the harm in me accepting his friend request and communicating so I went forward. I guess I'm just trying to figure out why after six years would he want to know anything about me? Why would he want to be friends? It would mean a lot more if he was still with the girl or even in another relationship... Sorry for the length.
pippy longstocking Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 you where very important to one another and I guess his split has made him sit and look back over his life and obviously you had a big part in his life ...so he wants to see how life is for you etc etc are you worried he is trying to hook back up with you ? make your status and feelings very known from the start .
Anonymama Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 you where very important to one another and I guess his split has made him sit and look back over his life and obviously you had a big part in his life ...so he wants to see how life is for you etc etc are you worried he is trying to hook back up with you ? make your status and feelings very known from the start . Im not really sure what I'm worried about. It's just so confusing to me. We didn't necessarily end things on a nice note and he was so adamant about not bein apart of each others lives. I guess I just wish I understood his intentions or what kind of friendship he thinks we can form. He's basically a stranger to me now, you know? Its been seven years since we broke up and 3 years since we spoke (and that wouldn't have happened if we weren't at the same restaurant)
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