Sean1740 Posted June 26, 2012 Share Posted June 26, 2012 I have been on 3 dates with this girl I met. I text her last Wednesday for dinner Thursday. She replied that sounds great but I work that night too. I will give you a text sometime next week. I said no worries I leave Wednesday for vacation. Yesterday I sent her a text saying I assume you have been busy with work or I did something wrong. I leave Wednesday so I will msg you when I get back.She texts me at noon today.. Hey. I have been busy with work have a good trip! I said thanks msg you when I get back. She replied sounds good.. She works at the hospital, on call so her shifts are kind of all over. But she is not always full time. I'm I missing something here or is the girl playing me? How can you be so busy with work you can't find a minute to msg someone? I haven't even sent her a msg in a week. I know better then to keep harassing a girl by text so I haven't even been close to that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuperDuper Posted June 26, 2012 Share Posted June 26, 2012 This sounds like the girl I've been pursuing, oddly enough. Where do you live? Maybe she didn't text you because she didn't have a date idea, and didn't want to just text for no reason (or just to say "hey"). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EgoJoe Posted June 26, 2012 Share Posted June 26, 2012 When you get back text her a date, a time and a place and then say, "Do you want me to pick you up or meet you there?" assumptive close her ass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gluestick Posted June 26, 2012 Share Posted June 26, 2012 When you get back text her a date, a time and a place and then say, "Do you want me to pick you up or meet you there?" assumptive close her ass. lol I wouldn't say that. Just give it another shot after you come back from vacation. If she agrees to go out with you, then maybe she really has been busy. If she gives you the run-a-round, then give up and find someone more interesting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Darcy Posted June 26, 2012 Share Posted June 26, 2012 I think whatever her reasons for not getting back to you sooner you might want to shift your thinking. This is a virtual stranger and texting her suggesting you did something wrong sounds a little insecure. By the way just call instead of texting ... all that texting seems a little lazy to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adora Posted June 27, 2012 Share Posted June 27, 2012 I ll start by saying that no, no one can be that busy as to not send a simple text throughout a week's time, especially when the recipient is someone whom you just started dating, so, logically, there's supposed to be some degree of excitement for next meeting. Yes one can be enough busy and not be able to arrange a meeting throughout a week(or more), or be enough busy and not return a phone call throughout 1 day or 2. But here we have a simple text...in one week's time...to someone whom you started dating and everything about him is fresh... I mean if there was one person that could take you out of your busy schedule for one moment, that could be that guy! Notice how when you told her "I leave Wednesday so I will msg you when I get back" , she just said "Hey I have been busy with work, have a good trip". That puts a tiny bit of full stop right there, and you had to "press on" by repeating you ll message her when returning so she would finally comment something about the progress of your dating status "sounds good". Now why I am saying all these, and sorry if my first words and thoughts kinda let you down a bit. By no means I am trying to tell you she is not interested and just trying to be polite about it, or "playing you" as you put it. However - from the little that you posted - she does seem to take things a bit more slowly and casually than you. Reasons can be many, from her busy schedule to personal issues , but that little difference it makes because, as someone else commented above, let's face it...you don't know her enough. The girl seems to enjoy your company but without dating you at this phase being her priority, that doesn't necessarily mean she is playing you, it does though mean she is taking things more relaxed. And I believe this is what you need to do as well. So, as others suggested, no reason for comments like "did I do something wrong?", putting yourself in defense mode opposite to someone you don't even know yet if she sees you romantically in the same way you see her. So next time, call her than text her, it's far more direct than cold messages. If she brings up the busy schedule again, ask her to suggest a day and time more convenient for her. Don't overthink it much, don't sound needy. A girl that likes someone , on whatever degree, won't miss the opportunity given, even if that date has to be after several days due to demanding work and/or life. If she - again - kindly manages to avoid the issue or leaves the invitation hanging open the following days/week giving only generic answers ( I ll text you, have a good trip) , then my friend glance a bit beyond her, there's always someone else for you down one of the next corners Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abitbroken Posted June 27, 2012 Share Posted June 27, 2012 Stop texting and start talking. Yes, people have slammed weeks, especially if she works all different shifts. She might not know if she is coming or going and her day off might be readjusting to a new schedule. Call her when you get back and set up a date - but give her time to call back in case she has an odd shift that day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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