she wants to end it, but keep the friendship.

[finallystrong]

Over the past few months, I have always been the one to end it, due to what I felt was her being disrespectful or selfish toward me. She would always beg me to stay and call me non-stop or want to come see me to talk. I would always cave in and try again with her, but it still ended up going to the same place. We would continue to work on things and things would get better, but it would always be that one day or night where things turned ugly fast.

 

We were arguing a few nights ago about something random, and I asked her to call me because I hate arguing through texts, especially if I feel it's something that can be resolved easily over the phone. She told me no, and that she wouldn't take time to talk to me when she was with her friends. She said that I was acting ridiculous and said bye. Things escalated, because I felt she wasn't being fair, and it got ugly.

 

Then a few days later, she kept contacting me with random crap. And eventually, I told her to just come over so we could talk. She came over last night, and she was still saying the same things, about how her and I have too many things we don't agree on. And one example was how she wouldn't want her b/f to take time away from her friends. (Just fyi, we aren't dating, and never have dated)

 

After the conversation went downhill, she said she was going to go. She said she is tired of me always wanting to get rid of her, even though that wasn't the case. She takes it as me wanting to get rid of her, when it's really just me telling her that I can't stay her friend if I want to move on. That I love her too much, and if we didn't try to date, it would be to hard to stay her friend. She wanted to leave, and I didn't let her for the first few times, but eventually I said ok. She left and that was it... I'm not sure what to do now.... Should I contact her?

[EgoJoe]

So, tell her no and move on. This situation is toxic anyways.

[HeartGoesOn]

(Just fyi, we aren't dating, and never have dated)

 

Since you've never dated, what is there to end?

[finallystrong]

So, tell her no and move on. This situation is toxic anyways.

 

Ok... That's if she tries to contact me. Not sure if she will

 

Since you've never dated, what is there to end?

 

I don't know... We have had this weird thing, of like "semi-dating".... Where she basically put me on a trial run of, "if you can show me you are a good b/f, i'll consider you to be more than a friend". We have had sex, put it was a few months ago, but other than that, there was no physical contact at all, not even kissing. Although last night, we did kiss before she left. And that was the first time we kissed.... It was a messed up situation. I don't know what to do

[mhowe]

This is the silliest thing I have ever heard --- trial dating?

 

Leave --- run. You don't "audition" to date someone.

[Benjamin07]

Girls need their freedom but at the same time want to feel the protection and connection to a guy. The hard thing is the balance between controlling and uncaring. In my personal opinion she is playing games with you. You dont audition to date and furthermore if a girl refuses to take the time to speak with you she has other priorities... Look she is is just not respecting you in the least and to be blunt if you go down this road there is nothing but a world of hurt and disappointment. I agree that you should run away as fast as possible. Friends dont treat real friends like that. Just a bit of food for thought.

 

Benjamin