jumper11 Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 I havent messaged back but he won't leave me alone and just trying to stay strong... When do you think is the appropriate time to actually block? I've never been a huge advocate of it due to the what if syndrome but if he has messaged me every day since I've gone NC then... I deleted my ex off the Iphone Game app center as a friend and he just tried to re add me...right before a long text about my birthday and saying he's going to 'text again today'..doesn't want to fully commit but wont leave me alone.... And JUST texted me again... I cant take this anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jumper11 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Share Posted June 23, 2012 Im going to break NC and tell him off.. I cant take this anymore.. I went 10 days but hes messaged me 9 of them.. Im going to lose my mind.. he always leaves me but does this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Furbys Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 No do not break NC, you may think telling him off will stop him but it wont. It will just encourage him. Stay strong, we know you can do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jumper11 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Share Posted June 23, 2012 I can't take this anymore.. he left me and its been 1.5 years since we broke up and he's never left me alone and they aren't "How are you" texts so its really hard and I dont know why this person wont stop... its not fair to me... its just mean at this point.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Furbys Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 Then you know what you must do. Continue NC, delete his number, maybe get a new number and delete and block him off everything else, e.g. Facebook. Do what you can to prevent him from contacting you. The longer you do NC the sooner he will get the message that you are gone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jumper11 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Share Posted June 23, 2012 I wanted to reconcile but he doesnt know what he wants it seems but keeps sending mushy messages.. I dont have him on anything but Msn which I do not use anyways, I deleted him off everything and I don't have facebook anymore so he cant log onto peoples to see it.. I shouldn't have to get a new number. Most exes who dont want you eventually leave you alone.. how come mine is like this ? This is so frigging hard, I shouldnt have to go 10 Days nc and receive like 11 or so messages.. And on my birthday too.. and it pisses me off that the first person to send a mushy bday message had to be my ex, I didn't know people could be so cruel.. All I did was love him.. He won't fully let go but wont commit at all. I'm sorry, Im just really emotional and trying not to contact. I just wanted him to either commit or let me heal in peace.. not this.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Furbys Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 It's ok i understand. I had a guy who would never stop contacting me and i was doing NC took him a good few months to finally get the message and stop messaging me. You want to reconcile, he hasnt stated that he does which mostly means he does not want to reconcile. If a guy/girl really wanted to reconcile they would say so/make it clear they do. I believe he has been doing this to you because you have allowed it, you two have been contacting each other since the break up so he believes it is ok to carry on contacting you like this. This is why you continue with the NC and do not break it, otherwise he will think everything is fine and he can carry on contacting you. He will soon get the message that you do not want him contacting you, you just have to stay strong and not break NC. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jumper11 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Share Posted June 23, 2012 Yea what happened originally was I went NC and dated one person a year ago and he had come back, but I had started dating someone and he had hurt me so much. So after my fling thing ended I wanted my ex , enough time had passed to forgive or whatever, ( a whole year ago) but now he wasn't ready, then was, but was in actuality seeing someone and talking to me, then he recently came back and wanted to work on things but then he bailed.. Yeah I know I need to keep NC. Its just awfully hard when I see all these messages, all the time. I dont want to hear how he loves me etc, it just sets me back.. He just texted me again.... I'm good at NC ive done it before for months but I can't take like 3 texts a day.. all love notes.. Have to keep reminding myself that Words are only Words. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Furbys Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 When you receive the messages you read them? Do not read them just delete them straight away. I did this and it helped a lot because i was just ignoring him completely. He has had plenty of chances to get back with you and reconcile and he has either got with someone else or bailed, he will not change. Do not read any of the messages, just press delete. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jumper11 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Share Posted June 23, 2012 Thank you, Ill take that advice, its hard with an iphone though, it literally pops up in your face, even after turning off the Preview setting Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Furbys Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 As hard as it may seem, divert your eyes from the actual message. My phone meant that when i received a message i could see a preview of it so i would just divert my eyes and then delete. This way i had no idea what he was saying which means i had nothing to mess with my mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DylanNotorious Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 If you really wanted this to stop, you would change your number. And yes, I think you do need to change your number. If you don't want contact from him anymore then you should. No more excuses, time to change it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jumper11 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Share Posted June 23, 2012 I wish things could work out between us which is probably why I havent gone that far yet As much as I know I am an idiot to hold onto these feelings.. so ashamed of myself today. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jumper11 Posted June 24, 2012 Author Share Posted June 24, 2012 Now he just tried to add me to his email.. this is just a ridiculous day! Thanks Furbys, you helped a lot. I needed your strength to boost my own Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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