ConfusedVirgin Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 Mods please do not move this thread as it pertains to my attitude towards sex and romance thus it belongs here. First off I made an apology thread to all those whom I offended(mainly very non intentional disrespect towards women ) in my manic mental breakdown state. that was quickly moved to personal growth if anyone wants to check it out. I have finally come out of my breakdown and am much more stable and logical....I have really been trying to take in and actually use the advice people have given me. I've done a lot of research on the internet about this topic ("small penis syndrome" they call it which doesnt mean its ACTUALLY small you just have illusions that it is) and i've seen so many people do the same exact thing I did....blow off every attempt at help and tell them how that wont work and how its wrong. I am DONE being that person. I am DONE being cynical....DONE being a pessimist...DONT being insecure about something I can't control and isn't a big deal anyway. Someone said something about taking everything thats stored up in my brain about sex and hit alt+ctrl delete and I am really putting that into motion and I wanna thank whoever said it..I can't remember So what is my penis is average or...on the smaller side of average....according to the many great women of ENA that can actually lead to better sex with some woman! When I fixate on insecurities I lose focus of the good things about me,physically and personality wise, for which there are many in my opinion. Life ain't so bad when I really sit and think....i mean sh*t I'm not even that bad with the ladies for gods sake! im pretty charming! Unlike most people who go on crazy rants online about their penis size, reading through many many MANY posts online, I realized they were CHOOSING unhappiness. I am a hopeless romantic (but not a doormat...im really not as big a noob with ladies as you might think despite not having even kissed a girl yet!) so the girl who I end up falling in mutual love with won't care my penis isn't some crazy size. I have really had a huge break through and I can't thank the fine people of this website for helping me along in it.... i'm finally ready to live life again happy rather then sulking in self pity about something that is an imaginary problem in the first place. ..... I'm finally starting community college aug 9th in the new city I moved to 9-10 months ago(800 miles from home) at 22 years of age, getting my life on track and I gotta say....for the first time in a while I feel like I'm liking what the future is going to bring. I am putting sex on the back burner. I'm just gonna be looking to meet new people (havent ventured out much since moving, havent made any friends accept for a few aquaintences at a card shop I go to) and if I meet a great girl and it happens...sure great awesome. But i'm NEVER AGAIN going to let penis size and the fact that I haven't kissed or had sex with a women determine my self worth....because that is a catch 22 as women will smell the desperation and lack of self respect. thats not what a real man does and that is what i seek to be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jordesse Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 That all sounds fantastic! If you have seriously changed your attitude for the better then I applaude you. Better still, I give you a standing ovation! Well done. My current boyfriend has hang ups about his body hair. He has a vast hairly chest as well as back hair. He's only 28 and he's also slightly balding. I think he's the most beautiful man I've ever met! He's incredibly hot as well as caring, kind and very masculine. Let me tell you, I definitely had an attitude kind of like yours in that excessive body hair to me was a real turn off. I swore I'd never date a guy with a hairy back! My previous husband used to shave what little hair he had off! He knew I hated it on other men. After my divorce, I met my current boyfriend in winter so I got to know him without knowing what was under the clothes. It didn't matter anyway, I fell instantly, madly in love with him! I loved him inside and out so by the time we got naked, I loved his hair, I loved everything about him. His attempts at wanting to wax/shave were met with extreme protests from me. Genuine protests as I seriously wanted him to be the man he is exactly how he is. I do not want him to change anything about himself. I love running my fingers through his chest. I just love him. So take it from someone who had a shallow attitude before she found real love, real love knows no shallowness. The girl who is lucky enough to fall in love with you will love you for everything about you including your average penis. She won't give it a second thought just as you won't care if her breasts are small, or her butt just a bit wide......You have the world at your feet at 22!! Good luck and enjoy every day you've been given..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConfusedVirgin Posted June 23, 2012 Author Share Posted June 23, 2012 Thank you for the kind words jordesse! much appreciated! you seem like a delightful woman and i'm sure your boyfriend is a lucky man! ha that reminds me i have some upper back hair that is a real hindrane to me I gotta take care of that one of these days. it's nothing jungle like but kinda gross and anoyying to dry off after i get out of the shower. It would be ideal for me i think to find a woman like ive seen on these forums who says they not only think there ok but PREFER average to smaller penises. That would be excellent! The journey to acceptance I feel is also accepting some peoples bodies do prefer a longer and thicker penis and that is OK and nothing to be bitter about. Also to some people,penis size WILL be a deal breaker. These people do you the biggest favor by doing so if they do do that as it shows their true colors and proves there not a good person deep down! so the fact that it is very important to a small minority of people is actually a good thing! shows you whos who!! I've literally learned how to think differently...everything i thought was a negative about this subject fo me i can flip to a posetiv...its all in how you think...if I didn't change I'd be the bitter lonely overweight 35 year old virgin who moans how its not his fault! im all set with that!!! LIFE HERE I COME BABY! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConfusedVirgin Posted June 23, 2012 Author Share Posted June 23, 2012 I would really like to once again thank the wonderful beautiful women of ENA for helping me realize size DOES NOT matter and that sex is SO SO SO SO much more then penetration! I am forever grateful... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jordesse Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 I can't believe you are saying your back hair is gross and you have to take care of it after everything I've said!! YOU'RE FINE as you are!!! That's my whole point!! And stop talking about penis size!! You don't have to try and find a woman who prefers average to small penises!!! We women do not judge a man on his penis size!! I have no idea what kind of woman would break up with a man over his penis size, I've sure never met one!! People may have been saying they prefer an average or small penis but they wouldn't dump the man they love over it being too big!!! I'm not sure you have changed your attitude confused? You seem to have changed so that you "accept your limitations" but I don't see that as being a good change. You should be thinking to yourself that you HAVE NO limitations. Your penis does the job its supposed to so what its limitation? Your dam right its a small minority of people whereby a small penis is a deal breaker! I really don't know that any woman would dump the man she loves purely on penis size. You've really got to move on with this train of thought and stop thinking it works like this. It doesn't!! Are you going to put the same limitations on women? Will you date a woman that has very small breats even though your physically attracted to her otherwise? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConfusedVirgin Posted June 23, 2012 Author Share Posted June 23, 2012 jordesse...you definetly misunderstood me. I do not see it as a limitation....I'm just saying that I would love to find a woman who PREFERS it my size as oppose to ACCEPTS it...know what i mean? theres someone for everyone! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jordesse Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 It would be ideal for me i think to find a woman like ive seen on these forums who says they not only think there ok but PREFER average to smaller penises. That would be excellent! The journey to acceptance I feel is also accepting some peoples bodies do prefer a longer and thicker penis and that is OK and nothing to be bitter about. QUOTE] Confused, The journey to acceptance is not accepting that some people's bodies prefer a longer and thicker penis. Woman do not think like this! We really don't! If you meet a woman that you hit it off with, she's attracted to you, has fun with you, then by the time you get to the having sex part, she isn't going to care what size your package is! She really isn't! Just like with my man, I was so in love with him I couldn't have cared less if he had trees growing out of his back! If he got hit by a car tomorrow, and became paralysed, I would still be by his side, sex or no sex! Love blinds you and goes deeper then physical beauty. I know what you mean, you want a woman who is looking for a man with an average sized penis, but we women don't think like that. I used to think I preferred a hairless man but the truth is, I prefer my boyfriend! I don't just accept he is hairy, I prefer him how he is. Does that make sense? I don't wish he was hairless, I don't want him to wax/shave. I prefer him to be who he is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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