HELP PLEASE! Will NC make her forget me for good?? New update...

[BlazePT]

Hey, guys.

 

So, yesterday I came to know that my ex is a little freaked out about not hearing from me (1 month 1/2 NC) and that apparentely she's a bit afraid of me starting dating other girls or flirting, etc.

 

Especially at weekends, she freaks out a lot, since she only works at weekdays and her friends are too busy to be with her all the time.

 

Here lies the problem: she has this best (girl)friend of hers who, from the way I see it, keeps filling her head with batsh*t.

 

She keeps telling her things like "you know what you want, but you just cannot adapt to it" or "you keep thinking about what's right or wrong instead of focusing on what you really want" and "you can't keep thinking about who you love or loved. I can assure you that he's not thinking of you and he is moving on. And you should too." (bullsh*t)

 

This sh*t really pisses me off and my ex seems to keep agreeing to this and says that she is trying to do things that way. The real hypocrite thing in this is that this friend of hers ALSO went through something like this but got back together with her ex about 4 months later after dumping him and have been together for 3 years since.

 

I'm actually really mad at this friend of hers, since she also gave me advice when we broke up and said things like "I'm sure you'll do the right things and nothing is lost. You'll see things get better. You guys just need some time apart".

 

What the heck... Should I send a casual message or something like that??? Btw, I know all this info from a mutual friend of ours that's real close to me.

 

I still love her and want her back, even though I know that my mindset should be on moving on (and it kind of is), but I really don't wanna blow this off if she still has feelings for me, which it seems like she does!!

 

PLS, any advice would be appreciated!

 

Thanks in advance!

[pippy longstocking]

look it doesn't matter what her friend is telling her ..if she wants you bad enough she will come get you.

 

are you convincing yourself that this would be ok if the friend just butted out ?

 

are you forgetting the problems that caused the split ?

 

 

if it makes you feel better and that she is in full knowledge of the fact that you want to get back together ..then contact her..

it really is up to you fella ...

[Meatball105]

Yeah, it honestly doesn't matter what her friend says. She's going to do what she wants to do regardless. Before I broke NC with my ex, I had people telling me I shouldn't do it at all, that it would give him the power, and that I didn't need to move backwards, only forwards, and that he didn't deserve my friendship or me caring about him... blah blah blah. The second I went home, I texted him. People are going to do what they want to do. Same with the girl my ex dated before me. Some of his friends hated her. Always told him, "break up with her, she's an idiot, you can do better" all this * * * * . Annnddd. he still stayed. And went back time and time again. People are creatures of habit and really only hear what they want to hear, and in the end, do what they feel is right for them. (Unless they are complete puppets with no mind of their own.)

[TalkThatTalk9]

girls need a girlfriend to talk to about stuff.

 

I have two girlfriends who I talk to about the breakup... both of them are always preaching to me what to do and not do.

 

I of course, take their opinions into consideration, but honestly at the end of the day... I am going to do what I Want.

 

I go with what my gut and heart tell me to do. I know my ex better than they do. so I know what would freak him out and what would be ok with him.

 

so I do take what they say into consideration, but I also realize they have no idea who the person is I am dealing with. so I gotta only consider it not live by their advice

[BlazePT]

Thanks a LOT guys!! Great advice indeed!! It really helped me put things in a whole different perspective.

[Dazla]

Sorry Ive not got time to read the post fully...But no, its impossible.

 

I dumped my 2nd missus, we had an awful relationship and the break up was for the best if im honest. But there are times I think back to when we were both happy.

 

Someone who youve been special too in life will never forget you. Its simply impossible.

[BlazePT]

Sorry Ive not got time to read the post fully...But no, its impossible.

 

I dumped my 2nd missus, we had an awful relationship and the break up was for the best if im honest. But there are times I think back to when we were both happy.

 

Someone who youve been special too in life will never forget you. Its simply impossible.

 

Thanks for the advice, dazla .

 

The thing is, if she's the dumper, why in the hell would she be worried about what i am up to? What does she care if i'm meeting new girls and so on? I'm the one who should be freaking out by knowing that she's been hanging out and partying etc and probably meeting new people!

 

Doesn't this make sense?