Why people say stop looking and wait for love to find you?

[greenside]

I have been looking a girlfriend as I never had one before. And when I was looking for it, I could not find it and people told me to stop looking. And they say If I keep on looking for it I will never find it. And there said it will only happen unexpectedly. So three years ago at the age of 24 I stopped looking for a girlfriend and got on with enjoying my life and today at age 27 it has still not happened and when I said looking or not looking either way does not happen, people say just enjoy my life and say if it meant to find me, it will. Love has still not found me at all and If i end up being single all my life, I will be such an angry man because life without relationship for me is so unfair. I be so angry if I end up being single for the whole of my life.

[mhowe]

Sorry to say, but you need to ENJOY life, not just get on with it.

 

Finding love and relationships has a lot to do w/ a positive outlook.

[Moontiger]

Really all this means is stop trying to hard and enjoy life. I meet my BF at a Halloween party where I had no intention of picking anyone up. If I had been trying to hard to find someone I might have been out on some lame speed dating event or at home reviewing my link removed profile. People often meet in the random going on on everyday life. At work, the gym, a party etc.

 

Also, people can often tell when you are trying to hard and its can be a turn off.

[Leftright]

It's sad to see that such a thing makes you angry. It's times like this, when your single and free from attachment that you should be re-evaluating your life and getting out there and enjoying life as much as you can. Trust me when I say that being in a relationship is not the be-all-end-all. I've spent most of my 20's and 30's single and I can tell you that after looking back at all my past relationship attempts and observing the couples I know. I can honestly say that i'm glad i never got into a relationship or marriage, because I wouldn't have done all the things I have done being stuck in one. Just like you, i still go through the pangs of loneliness (especially since friends are usually not available to hang out or do the things I want to do). I'm hanging onto the possibility of making new friends to do things with, but for now, i'm content just doing things alone. I hope you get over this.