More bad news...

[yolo23]

So not only do I have to deal with my breakup. Not only do I have to deal with the struggle to get by everyday trying not to contact her and get it in my head that she doesnt want me, even though she said i'm this awesome guy, great catch, and not that many women can say they dated a guy as great as I am...she still left me...not only am i alone, i'm confused and don't know what's wrong with me...why do they not want me?

 

so going through that for 2 weeks. now I found out today that I failed the major certification test i took last month. Great! I studied hard for that exam to get the certification. Tried my best and it wasn't enough. Seems to be the trend for me. Tried my best with my ex and no matter what I did she lost feelings for me. Tried my best for this exam. Studying till 2am everyday for week prior to the test. Still ended up failing.

 

Its just bad news after bad news. Life is so damn great right now for me. I feel like a complete failure. nothing i do is right and no matter how hard i try, i always fail...

[Habibi]

maybe is the right time to try "smarter" rather than harder.

how ?

like this :

- stop feeling sorry for yourself

- accept when things go bad or sour

- recognize when a situation/person is a bad deal and move on

- when you fail any exam stand back and keep pushing forward, try again and if you fail again then keep pushing, and if you fail again...keep pushing till you get it right.

 

you can keep complaining as much as you want but all we can do is just read you...and if not tired, to give you some waky waky advise.

 

go for it !!!!

[pinklemons]

Dumba55 is right. It wasn't an ex for me, and it was years apart... but my parents deaths were consecutive days four years apart. I couldn't believe it, I thought my life was over. Six years later, I'm still here... it's been hard, but I got through it.

 

Just know that you're not alone, and that things WILL get better. Trust me. I've been there... *hugs*.

[deejay74]

dumba55 has very good suggestions. you have to keep trying. don't give up!

 

You know that saying "when it rains, it pours"? i know it may not give you much comfort right now but sometimes in life a string of bad events happen. You just have to stay the course and endure the hard times.

 

if it makes you feel any better, from 2009 - 2011 were the crappiest years of my life because of string of events. It started with me getting diagnosed with cancer and going through treatment. Then, at the apartment i was living at with my then ex GF, we had upstairs neighbors that constantly flooded their toilet into our apartment on top of selling drugs out of there 24/7. We got another apartment and a few months later got a case of bed bugs. A month later my step dad died. 2 months after that, my ex GF and i broke up and i moved back to the DC area from living in NYC for almost 8 years. I moved in to my mom's house to help her with finances and to give her moral support. but it was miserable. my step dad left a huge financial mess that ended up with my mom fighting the IRS for about year. it wasn't until october of last year when things started looking up. i moved out and got my own place and have a pretty good job. so a little over 2 years, i had to deal with one bad thing after another. i am not saying that's how long you're going to endure bad news.

 

you know, my ex also told me that i was the best lover she had ever had, that no other BF made her feel good about herself and that no other BF was as understanding and supportive of her as me. but she left me too. i guess those aren't enough to keep us around, eh?