I just need some advice.

[Namelesslove]

Hello everyone,

 

I hope this is the right place for my post. I'll try to keep it short. I have a lot of personal and emotional issues, which i can't all identify, and I probably need a therapist. However, I've been in a relationship for almost 9 years since I was 14 and some of what I feel, I think, is connected to my spouse. He says he loves me and I don't want to hurt him, so what I'm asking is do I need a break from him (and see a therapist, ect.) in order to heal? He's not the supportive type, and I've asked for a break in the past. He got angry and said that any kind of break would mean the end of us forver. So how do I go about this? The main reason i think the break will help is because I've been suffering from depression our whole relationship and have been unable to improve. I feel stuck.

 

Thank you for reading.

[Hersheykissx0]

You need to put yourself first and allow yourself to heal. So if that means going on a break and seeing a therapist then you should do so. My mom has had major depression off and on throughout her life so I understand how much people suffer with it. But now she is seeing a doctor every week and thankfully she is good right now. So I believe you should see a therapist, I am all for therapists they really do help. Your spouse should be supportive of you but I am sure he is just worried if you 2 go on a break you won't wind up back together. He must be scared but that should not stop you from getting the help you need.

[Namelesslove]

Thank you, Hersheykissx0. I made first therapy appointment, and planning to see someone regularly.

 

I brought up to my spouse how I want to focus on fixing myself and I believe a break would help me and he refused. He got angry and told me to stop talking about it. So, now my question is: how do I make this break happen?

He has cause me a lot of hurt in the past and I think I resent him, but I still care about him. However, living with him gives me more anxiety and stress. So, I think it's a good decision for myself.

Sigh, I don't know if it's a bad decision because I might not see him again. Maybe if he really wants to be with me, then he'll make the effort to get back in touch when I'm healed?