My Ex Girlfriend Called me. She wanted to break up. What do you guys think??

[Dmine1234s]

My girlfriend and I broke up recently.She's still in college for another year and I just recently graduated. We don't live in the same town at home but are close enough to visit, however when at school there's 4.5 hours between us. Towards the end of the school year she started acting strange and said she wanted to break up, i think it had something to do with her mom. I never had the feeling she liked me and always was a little more involved in our relationship than i ever experienced before. She didnt have the guts to break up with me but she kept alluding to it so I finally just said lets break up because you want to. So we did. She said didn't feel like she was doing a good enough job juggling school & a long distance relationship. I asked her if she saw us together again one day once school was over and stuff & she said she definitely did but idk if she was just saying that? She sent it in a text and when I didnt answer she forwarded it to me again saying "Yeah, definitely So idk if she meant it or was just saying that. Anyway after that we hadn't talked for a while and out of the blue at 4am she called me. I saw the call didn't answer, She left me a voicemail crying, saying how she knows she shouldn't have called but she wanted to see how I was doing and that she missed me. I text her later in the day and asked her if she wanted to talk but all she said that she shouldn't have called and she was so sorry to bother me. I don't know what to say to her, I'm kind of confused. I really miss her and want her back but I don't want to seem like a stalker or anything so I haven't tried talking to her. What do you guys think?

 

***I messaged her the other day telling her that I knew she was drunk and I addressed what she said and I told her I missed her too & she said this back to me "i do remember calling you, i was drunk but not that drunk. i just wanted to apologize because i shouldn't be messing around with your head like that i did mean it though when i said i missed you"

[kts]

well its an interesting situation! shes definitely sending you some mixed signals and I think she knows that. As is I think she was confused about the break and wasn't totally sure it was what she wanted. And now she still isn't sure. She misses you and possibly wants a future with you but doesnt know for sure yet.

 

I say wait it out. Focus on you and healing a bit. I would just focus on what you want and doing things that make you happy. Don't wait for her per say, but dont go around forgetting about your relationship completely. If you have hope let it be, theres really no way to control it regardless, but dont focus on it. Don't create a perfect fantasy of what will happen but don't assume the worst either.

 

It's hard I know but going no contact for a month or so may help you to sort out your feelings. If by then you still want to be with her maybe give her a call or text her and maybe ask for some closure or just to catch up. See what happens. People can surprise you in the strangest ways!

 

Good luck with whatever you decide to do (:

[Stay_home]

Hardships are a part of life and apply to our relationships as well. Everytime something goes wrong we can't always be so quick to pull the plug. Part of being in a relationship is learning to grow together and work through issues as a team, like a family. It will be hard, there will be struggles and miscommunications from time to time but that is a part of it. It seems like she's regretting that decision to end the relationship and I don't doubt that she misses you. But the problem with breaks up and makes up is that sometimes a relationship ending is necessary in order for us to move on and realize who we are and how valuable we really are. But rather than to realize that we act off instinct and we jump right back into the same drowning boat we just got off. I'm not calling your woman a drowning boat, I'm just speaking generally. Maybe she just needs some time to figure out what it is she really wants. If she thinks the pressure is on now just because of school, she ain't seen nothing yet, life can get much more complicated and scary than just trying to juggle an education and a long distance relationship. My question to her is, what's going to happen the next time you get overwhelmed? Are you going to break up with me again?

[mhowe]

Especially in the "just leaving college phase" of life, break ups are heart wrenching. Mostly due to 2 lives in different places.

 

However, "missing you" is just that --- missing you.

 

It's not anything more than that.