Rought night...and fears of never being rid of trust issues.

[Kristenelaine]

My fear is, I wont be able to trust someone fully. That i will always wonder if they are hiding something. I havent snooped or investigated since my teen years. I worry that I will become one of those people that do that just to get some peace of mind that nothing is happening. I would communicate with the person I am with so things dont get crazy like that...I just dont want to become that person. I really hope that I can fix the issues I have and meet someone down the road who truly cares about me and only wants me....no secrets, no hiding things. I fear I will always be alone because I will always wonder about what I dont know.

 

I am getting help with my trust issues and anxiety. I guess I am just in a really bad place. I really hope there is a man out there that I will be able to let my guard down with. I know a few people who think their partners are heaven sent, have been with them for over 5 years, and their partners have been cheating the entire time. They wont listen to anyone. Just freaks me out....I hope I can find real happiness on my own and I hope I can be capable of trusting a man. And of the love that comes with it.

 

Ugh....rough night.

[Tom1990]

My first girlfriend, I dated and broke up with, three times. She never cheated on me, but she cheated on her then-partners with me. It caused some pretty deep-seated trust issues in me that carried over to my most recent relationship. It sucked. Even now, I wonder if she (my most recent ex) cheated on me. Truth be told, she didn't. She wouldn't even look at another person when she was with me. But that feeling still lurks, deep down. I wish I could have been more trusting.

 

Right there with you.

[Kristenelaine]

Exactly, my most recent ex treated me so well. But there were a few red flags. Im not sure if they existed or if I made them up. Best guy I have ever been with....but before we even said goodbye he was with someone else...so, I have no idea who he was talking to when we were together, or if he cheated on me. I really dont know what to believe.