MissieP Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 I was doing some household chores and didn't hear my house phone ring ( yes I still have my house phone too lol) Anyways... I notice my answering machine is blinking. I played the message and it was my ex saying I just had back surgery and I am doing good just a little sore I love you. Huh? Loves me? Is he under alot of heavy meds? He has a girlfriend so why the heck is he calling me and why is he telling me he loves me? I didn't call him back and I don't plan on it but seriously what the heck? Oh,boy just when I thought things were getting good this happens I didn't even know he had back problems... Anyways the fact of the matter is why is he calling me and not his precious girlfriend? Is he high? We are done he made that quite clear! Link to comment
Yeul Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 Ummm......... wow...... I don't even know what to say other than wow.... Link to comment
MissieP Posted February 24, 2012 Author Share Posted February 24, 2012 Ya I know right? I am like what the heck? The funny part is he rarely calls my house phone he has only called it maybe two or three times when he were dating he was a chronic texter and maybe a few times he would call my cell but most of the time it was text,text. Normally I would call him back and say why did you call me or I would text him asking why did you call my house phone you know I barely use that but since I am in full NC I am not bothering. I have to be strong here! Link to comment
Aqua066 Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 How long since you broke up? How long since you had contact with him? Link to comment
charity Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 that is weird. is there any chance he thought he was calling the girlfriend but called you by accident? Link to comment
dumPI Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 Are you having the mixed feelings caused by breadcrumbs?! Somehow it may feel wonderfully weird to hear from him. Then you read this forum and everything regarding breadcrumbs and ... can set you back! Link to comment
dumPI Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 that is weird. is there any chance he thought he was calling the girlfriend but called you by accident? his GF should know about back surgery shouldn't she?! Link to comment
MissieP Posted February 24, 2012 Author Share Posted February 24, 2012 We broke up 3 months ago ( almost 3 months) and I hadn't spoken to him in weeks hadn't broken any contact and he e-mails me last week saying how he has changed blah,blah,blah and how he is a changed man blah,blah,blah and how his new girl is wonderful. I said great good you are happy and I left it at that and hadn't broken any contact and today he calls me on my house phone leaves a message telling me about his back surgery and he loves me wait what? I thought you were a changed man and you loved your new girl why the heck are you calling me? No I didn't say that but I am thinking it. Link to comment
MissieP Posted February 24, 2012 Author Share Posted February 24, 2012 Ya I suppose his girlfriend would know about the back surgery but seriously calling me when just last week he told me what a changed man he was and how wonderful she is wouldn't a changed man not call his ex and tell her he loved her? I was having a good week not even thinking about him and even the thought of getting back together with him makes me ill and here comes new can of open worms. Strange,strange! Link to comment
dumPI Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 We broke up 3 months ago ( almost 3 months) and I hadn't spoken to him in weeks hadn't broken any contact and he e-mails me last week saying how he has changed blah,blah,blah and how he is a changed man blah,blah,blah and how his new girl is wonderful. I said great good you are happy and I left it at that and hadn't broken any contact and today he calls me on my house phone leaves a message telling me about his back surgery and he loves me wait what? I thought you were a changed man and you loved your new girl why the heck are you calling me? No I didn't say that but I am thinking it. you see how his actions and his words don't match. So don't believe the words. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 This is not about you, it's all about him easing his guilt. Keep that in mind... Link to comment
nomorecupid Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 what a loser. aren't u glad u are rid of him. i have a sneaking suspicion that he is waiting for u to call him. And when u do, he is going to be like "Oh, sorry, I dialed the wrong number when I phoned u." Link to comment
gardnergirl2 Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 I never cease to be amazed at what some of these dumpers will do. Yes, maybe he was drugged up and thought he was calling his gal. Who knows....weird.... Link to comment
Gimpyrks Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 Looks to me that he is looking for me some attention, which you are right at not giving it to him. Just ignore you are doing great Link to comment
Jaded Too Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 You're doing great Missie, I agree with all of the above. Don't call him back. It sounds like a ploy to me, he's looking for an ego-boost. Ah, the selfishness. Don't get sucked into this trap. Maybe you should send the tape to his new girlfriend and say....oops, I think (his name) meant to send this to you. lol I'm teasing of course, but he'd totally deserve it. Link to comment
MissieP Posted February 24, 2012 Author Share Posted February 24, 2012 He was probably doped up on drugs ( those pain pills can be strong lol) and it was a drunk dial like oops thought I was calling... I thought of making a snarky comment like accidentally dialed me did ya? I thought better of it though. I am in full no contact mode The more I think about it he was looking for a pity party like poor me I had back surgery ouch He always was a attention seeker I would love to ruffle up his new girlfriend feathers and say oh Kara I think this message was for you! I would never do that of course but it would be quite amusing. Link to comment
delicous Posted February 25, 2012 Share Posted February 25, 2012 Is it possible, he meant to call her but was high and didn't realize it was you...? Link to comment
MissieP Posted February 25, 2012 Author Share Posted February 25, 2012 Ya I know but still my name is Missie her name is Kara how could he possibly mix those two up? He must of been really doped up lol Part of me still wants to send her that message he left on my answering machine but I know better but grrr I really want to lol Link to comment
GreenCupcake Posted February 25, 2012 Share Posted February 25, 2012 When guys like that say/imply that they are done with you, it's usually a heat of the moment thing. Their thoughts at that precise moment are probably, "Ok, she's annoying" or "I can't handle this right now" and they run away. But when they cool down (it can take days, weeks, months) and thoughts of you start crossing their mind (because of some type of void or whatever), that's when they get tempted to contact you and say crazy things. Your ex said all those things to you before because that's how he felt at THAT moment. He probably convinced himself that he didn't want to talk to you and that his current girlfriend was the best thing on earth. But then his thoughts shifted somewhere else. Remember, these type of guys have no idea what they want which means that they will bounce all over the place. You probably won't know what actually caused him to call you and leave that message. Maybe he pretended to be high or maybe him and his girlfriend got in a fight and he's looking for a shoulder to lean on. Whatever he did was on purpose, high or not. Try to stay away. Link to comment
Zack808 Posted February 25, 2012 Share Posted February 25, 2012 Hey Missy, don't read into things. Just remember, he left you for someone else. Would you still want to be with someone who is unsure of what he wants? The emotional turmoil he has put you through? Ignore it and maintain NC. Remember, NC is about you, not him. Let him call, text, email, whatever he needs to do until he gets the picture, that you don't deserve breadcrumbs and that you are moving on for that special someone else in the future. Link to comment
MissieP Posted February 25, 2012 Author Share Posted February 25, 2012 I am steering far,far away but the funny part ( not really funny) my sister who is still friends with my ex on facebook happened to check her facebook on her cell and said there is a new photo of him and his new girl saying don't we make the cutest couple? I said now I really want to record that message off my answering machine and send it to her saying Kara this is for you darling or maybe it was me not sure but whatever here you go. He's a sleezeball and will always be a sleezeball and I know he hasn't changed and as far as I am concerned he can keep contacting me all he wants and trying to be friends but I will never be his friend ever again and I have nothing more to say to him I am staying hardcore NC. Link to comment
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