ghengisT Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 She requested a break initially because she said the "feeling's" not there anymore. I kindly opened the door for her & said we owe it to ourselves to be happy because life is short. A few days later, I reached out to her for dinner & to get a few things off my chest & tried to pull her back in (Bad. I know). We love each other very much, but at 24yrs, I can coincide with wanting to spread your wings. I love her very much & want her to be happy with or without me, but she's trying to keep me around as her best friend, which I cannot (right now, at least). In time I hope she comes around. I've taken the LC / NC approach as I was the needy person in our relationship. We planned a dinner a week out (after the initial dinner), and I anticipated she would make other plans so I made other plans in advance to be out of town. I didn't receive any calls or texts the day of the proposed dinner, but received several urgent text messages the following day regarding the puppy I had got her for Christmas last year. The texts were followed by "What happened to sat(urday)". I played it cool & said "hey i got your txts.. i went up north for a couple days, on my way back right now.. what's up?" She responded that she wanted to know when she could go see my parents and pay them the money she owes them (for a vet bill). Even though she and my mom communicate regularly via cell phone. Like she can't just call her & stop by? They live down the street. I responded "Cool. How's Bear (the dog)". She responded that he got a gash on his ear but she took care of it, though. Last we spoke. Anyway, do you think I should have handled the LC / NC break differently? I feel as if I am being mature/nice about it. Any advice? I can say I feel as if I've "semi-moved on". I've cleaned up quite a bit, taking better care of myself, reuniting w/ friends I lost touch with.. even started going to my company's advanced Yoga class once a week. I was avidly practicing Muay-Thai kick boxing when we met, and it's a costly sport so I fell out of it soon after falling for her.. I went back to my first class last night & am feeling pretty damn good about myself, future, etc. Link to comment
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