Who has more experience?????

[sweetestdesire]

Who do you think has more experience, someone who had sex w/ the same partner for 5 years or someone who had sex w/ different people in those five years??

 

Why is experience important when it comes to sex?

 

 

Curious on people's perspectives.

Feel free to share any personal stories

[danny2020]

Depends what you mean by "experience". The person in a relationship will likely have more experience of sex in general, as they'll probably be having more of it, but the other person will have more experience of what various different people are like in bed. And experience is only important as it (mostly) means you're better at it, due to more time practicing. Not always the case though, as some people have loads of sex and are still bad at it and others are great right from the jump. And even then, what's seen as 'bad in bed' by someone might be seen as 'great in bed' by someone else, depending on what they're into. What's more important I guess is just finding someone that's sexually compatible, regardless of their experience.

[Seraphim]

I agree it depends on what you mean by experience.

[Minx2012]

I've experienced both ( many partners in 5 years & one partner in 5 years ). I can't really define as to which experience got me more experienced bc I never defined experience in terms of quantity of time alone. As one OP stated on here, someone can have sex many times but still be horrible in the bedroom. I also agree with that OP's post that it really comes down to finding that person ( or persons ) who you are sexually compatible with.

 

Frankly, I value and enjoy BOTH types of experiences. I enjoy the novelty, intrigue and the excitement of discovering someone new, inside and out. I also take every moment as a learning moment, so I get to redefine myself. Everytime I have slept with someone new, I learned something great about them and made it my "own". But then again, I also LOVE the intimacy and exploration of boundaries ( by trying to reach newer heights of sexual exploration ) with one person quite addictive. I love knowing the body and inner workings of someone I am truly, madly in love with.....and look forward to the next level of sexual adventure.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Does it really matter? What matters is being in tune with you partner..sexually, emotionally and intellectually. No amount of sexual experience be it with one person or with half a dozen, is going to help you have a satisfying relationship if all the ingredients (sexual, emotional and intellectual compatibility) are not there.

[sweetestdesire]

With the description of your sex experiences w/ new people, you make it very tempting to try lol

Thanks for sharing!

[Generation]

I can't really answer, I don't know. But I will say this... some people "got it" and some people just don't. One of my gfs, she was a virgin, she "got it goin on".

 

Then again, as a guy, I'm extremely easy to satisfy. I feel like there's more of a pressure on guys to just be good at it cause women aren't as easy to please as guys, or some women are different as to what turns them on.

[sweetestdesire]

Does it really matter? What matters is being in tune with you partner..sexually, emotionally and intellectually. No amount of sexual experience be it with one person or with half a dozen, is going to help you have a satisfying relationship if all the ingredients (sexual, emotional and intellectual compatibility) are not there.

 

To some extent it does, depending on how important sex is to you. I see posts here all the time about couples being in love, & the desire to have sex is not there any longer for whatever reason & they question continuing w/ the relationship.

[sweetestdesire]

I can't really answer, I don't know. But I will say this... some people "got it" and some people just don't. One of my gfs, she was a virgin, she "got it goin on".

 

Then again, as a guy, I'm extremely easy to satisfy. I feel like there's more of a pressure on guys to just be good at it cause women aren't as easy to please as guys, or some women are different as to what turns them on.

 

Good point generation! we are all pleased differently, that's very true.

[sweetestdesire]

Depends what you mean by "experience". The person in a relationship will likely have more experience of sex in general, as they'll probably be having more of it, but the other person will have more experience of what various different people are like in bed. And experience is only important as it (mostly) means you're better at it, due to more time practicing. Not always the case though, as some people have loads of sex and are still bad at it and others are great right from the jump. And even then, what's seen as 'bad in bed' by someone might be seen as 'great in bed' by someone else, depending on what they're into. What's more important I guess is just finding someone that's sexually compatible, regardless of their experience.

 

I agree with you Danny. what i meant i guess was "sex" experience. But its true, some guys are rough & just care about reaching their climax & they'res guys who actually care about us being pleasured & are willing to do whatever to do that. It depends on what type of sex your looking for.

[duke nukem]

I don't know, I'd probably lean more towards being with someone for a long period of time, but even then it might not work with someone else.

 

 

I know that I personally would much rather be with one partner whom I sought to please more and more every time, with her feeling the same. The connection of love for me certainly makes the other person far more desirable in every way.

[Batya33]

Who do you think has more experience, someone who had sex w/ the same partner for 5 years or someone who had sex w/ different people in those five years??

 

Why is experience important when it comes to sex?

 

 

Curious on people's perspectives.

Feel free to share any personal stories

 

I don't think you can measure experience that way - if someone has had multiple partners they have more experience having multiple partners -whatever that experience is worth.

 

I don't think the number of partners or how long the person has been sexually active matters. I certainly don't think it should be assumed that more experience is better.

[Moontiger]

I think this is sort of like asking "Who has more medical experience, a heart specialist or a G.P.?" Its two completely different things.

[Day_Walker]

I think it is a loaded question and without more facts there is no answer. The question asks people to assume that certain activity occurred in each situation rather than stating what happened.

[thejigsup]

When you're with one person for a long period of time, you get very good at doing what you both like. When you not in acommitted relationship, you learn many different ways of pleasing someone. As a female, I say the second guy is more experienced and will most likely be better in bed. For some reason, a lot of guys are pretty sorry specimens in bed. I mean, what on earth is so hard about sex! If your partner is willing to experiment and she is experienced and knows what she is doing, why are there so many women who can't orgasm when they are with their partners? I only have relationships with guys who can please me. Bad in bed, no go.

[sweetestdesire]

When you're with one person for a long period of time, you get very good at doing what you both like. When you not in acommitted relationship, you learn many different ways of pleasing someone. As a female, I say the second guy is more experienced and will most likely be better in bed. For some reason, a lot of guys are pretty sorry specimens in bed. I mean, what on earth is so hard about sex! If your partner is willing to experiment and she is experienced and knows what she is doing, why are there so many women who can't orgasm when they are with their partners? I only have relationships with guys who can please me. Bad in bed, no go.

 

I like your first line! nicely said. i think that's the answer to my question

 

You give them the boot huh. nice. I agree with you with on why not wanting to experience?

You're not going to always get everything right the first time that's why you keeping trying until you get it right.

 

That is a turn on when a guy asks you what you want them to do to you. It makes me want to give back twice as much.

[sweetestdesire]

I think this is sort of like asking "Who has more medical experience, a heart specialist or a G.P.?" Its two completely different things.

 

Not really. I'm asking who has more sex experience someone who has sex w/ one person or someone who has sex w/ different people.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

To some extent it does, depending on how important sex is to you. I see posts here all the time about couples being in love, & the desire to have sex is not there any longer for whatever reason & they question continuing w/ the relationship.

 

When a relationship revolves around sex and there is no other glue holding it together, no emotional connection...then of course if the sex dries up, they will bolt. There is more to intimacy than the physical and technical aspects of sex. However, when someone is focused on sex and experience and technique, they might not really be cultivating true emotional intimacy. Life often has a way of overshadowing sex....stresses, illness, life's chores. True intimacy is possible even if the sex act itself goes through a dry spell....there are special glances, cuddling, talking, really connecting. However, because many people view sex as the driving force behind a relationship, that is why you read on this forum that people want to end their relationship the minute the sex is not as exciting or as frequent as it once was.

[Moontiger]

Not really. I'm asking who has more sex experience someone who has sex w/ one person or someone who has sex w/ different people.

 

I understand. What I am say is that have sex with one person for five years is completely different then have several sexual partners over five years. In my analogy:

 

One sex partner = Heart specialist

Many sex partners = G.P.

Medical experience = Sexual experience

[The_Seeker]

I can't really answer, I don't know. But I will say this... some people "got it" and some people just don't. One of my gfs, she was a virgin, she "got it goin on".

Then again, as a guy, I'm extremely easy to satisfy. I feel like there's more of a pressure on guys to just be good at it cause women aren't as easy to please as guys, or some women are different as to what turns them on.

 

I agreed.

 

To the OP, it doesn't matter, but quite a good question.

 

But I must put in analogy.

 

;] Remember the rabbit and the turtle?

 

Just because the rabbit is faster and better due to its racing experiences than the turtle, doesn't mean the turtle doesn't know how to meet its goal or what to do.

 

So in other words, it depends on the person's chemistry with the other person.

[Minx2012]

I can't really answer, I don't know. But I will say this... some people "got it" and some people just don't. One of my gfs, she was a virgin, she "got it goin on".

 

Then again, as a guy, I'm extremely easy to satisfy. I feel like there's more of a pressure on guys to just be good at it cause women aren't as easy to please as guys, or some women are different as to what turns them on.

 

This is true...for some people...but we still have to deal with the idea that "another man's trash is another man's treasure". It's about perception. What you consider " got it goin' on" may be blah for others while others might think, " Yup, he's right ". I stick with the whole notion that it's a matter of finding someone else at the right time that clicks perfectly well with you. For the most part, that's hard to find.