bluexin99 Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 So I always thought parents value the time they spend with their children because as children get older, they would inevitably become more independent and detach themselves (at least physically). At least I thought my parents did but now I know my mother really does not. Sometimes I question if she even loves me and my brother (we are her biological children). I know she loves herself more than any of us (she admitted it). She is a musician (does not work nor does she make any money out of her performances) and my father is the sole breadwinner in my family. I understand that there may not be opportunities for her to explore her talent here but I would never have imagined that she wants to go to another country - on the other side of the globe from where we are for a couple of years - to join a band so that she could possibly make money (but only a small possibility). My father is making enough money to support the family but my mother is never content. And she's never had to work since we came to Australia 16 years ago. I told her that her departure from us would inevitably mean that we would physically and emotionally detach from her and that she may regret losing that time she could have spent with us in the future (because in my mind, if I were her, I would). Her response was: "So? Then so be it.". It really stunned me. I was just so shocked. To be honest, although she has never expressed it before, I have always known that she does not enjoy spending time with me and my brother the way that my father does. However, in the back of my mind, I just wish she would love us more. I know her desire to leave is much more than just making her own money. She wants to leave us and the family and explore fresh and exciting things... and people. Any kind words or insights would be highly appreciated. Link to comment
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