roger23 Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 This is gonna take a lot of guts to post this but oh well, I'm 19 and right when I'm about to have sex, I just can't get it to go up. I'm in remarkable health so there's no way that could be a factor. My friends tell me it's cause I get nervous when it's about to happen. I believe this because I can feel my heart beat rapidly and heavily in the moments before. I've also had this similar problem when having sex with ex-girlfriends. Has anyone else dealt with a condition like this? Any success? Roger, who needs his buddy back. Link to comment
duke nukem Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Maybe get her to warm you up first? I'm sure there's something she could do to help you out. Link to comment
memento Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 It's all mental. Since your in college, it could be from stress and if your working too then that could add to it. Remember to relax bro. Meditate. Visual the erection. Link to comment
EgoJoe Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 It's all mental. Since your in college, it could be from stress and if your working too then that could add to it. Remember to relax bro. Meditate. Visual the erection. Stop masturbating and watching porn for a while. When you're in the moment, focus on that moment like the rest of the world does not exist. If the problem persists, see a Doctor. It is unlikely that it will. Link to comment
Keyman Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Hey Rog. The brain is a powerful tool (pun intended) and can have the unfortunate effect of slimming your Jim. The more you think about it, the more nervous you get the lower missile will fire. As soon as you start thinking about whether you can get an erection, that's when it starts sinking. Your subconcious just seems to take over and things will go down hill fast. The trick I found was to do it when you don't think so much, this generally means first thing in the morning or use things that just get things up and going without your brain thinking (i.e. the little blue or orange pill). Alternatively, and hardest (yes intended), is to just trust it will stand to attention when you want it to instead of worrying whether it will or not. This used to happen to me, and it was always when I had started seeing someone. When I found myself growing (pun again intended) more comfortable with the woman, I would not have to worry about it so much. I began imagining how I was going to be feeling and how she was going to be feeling and not how nervous I was. I would visualise her and what I was going to be (or was already) doing to her. Hope this helps a little. Link to comment
duke nukem Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Holy hell Keyman, the puns! Link to comment
memento Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Oh yeah, Don't under estimate foreplay.. Get yourself so worked up while the cloths are still on with kissing/dry humping/etc that by the time you get your pants off your humping dead air like a male dog sensing a female dog in heat. Link to comment
Circe Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 This is gonna take a lot of guts to post this but oh well, I'm 19 and right when I'm about to have sex, I just can't get it to go up. I'm in remarkable health so there's no way that could be a factor. My friends tell me it's cause I get nervous when it's about to happen. I believe this because I can feel my heart beat rapidly and heavily in the moments before. I've also had this similar problem when having sex with ex-girlfriends. Has anyone else dealt with a condition like this? Any success? Roger, who needs his buddy back. Yes - my husband had this. You are right - it's worrying about whether it will go up/stay up when it needs to that causes this to happen and the worst part of it is you can't stop the worrying very easily. If you try not to worry during that time it just reminds you to worry! Viagra does the trick. In terms of getting over the problem without viagra.. that can be quite difficult. I'll tell you what finally worked for my husband but this was very unexpected and did not happen until just a few months ago. Basically we were overseas and he had forgotten to pack the viagra. One night, I was down at the bar having a long island ice tea (very alcoholic) and he was up in our room and he was waiting for me to finish my drink so we could watch a tv programme on his laptop together. Basically I got very frisky after my drink, went upstairs, pounced on him and totally ravaged him I've never really been like that - and I have no idea what happened but he got it up really quickly and it stayed up. Since then we've been able to say goodbye to the viagra. I'd always assumed there was a physical problem (poor blood circulation etc) but when this happened I realised it truly was psychological. He used to say what you said - that he just wouldn't be able to stop worrying about whether it was staying up or not and that caused the problem every time. So - its difficult but please know that SOOOOOOOOO many men suffer from the same thing. Link to comment
hrtlsngl7 Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Scam your way into a Viagra or Cialys pill, but only take 1/2 of one to judge how effective it is. It'll make your stuff ROCK hard. Link to comment
MikNomis Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Also alcohol makes it tougher to get it up. Link to comment
roger23 Posted February 23, 2012 Author Share Posted February 23, 2012 all very valid responses, thanks everyone! Link to comment
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