theface71 Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Alright I am now officially done in terms of playing her game of limited contact. I am now going strictly NC because it seems that she only likes playing games. One minute she says we can talk online. Then she says I can only email her to talk so I do. And she once again gives no reply...She says we can always chat like good friends because she misses the friendship but do friends never reply to emails? Of course this is all magnified because I bumped into her today out of nowhere while getting off a bus. She smiled shyly and said nice to see you and walked away...Those are the most word exchanged all this month...despite her supposed confirmation of a friendship...I have had more delightful interactions with my bullies in High School than this cold cat and mouse game...I guess the guilt of the break up has finally worn off so she does not need to be friendly anymore...So day one of NC starting tonight... Link to comment
guynextdoor Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 You 2 are not together, why do you give her so much control of the whole situation? Don't let her play games with your mind, stick to your guns and go nc. Link to comment
RitaTrue Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 You're finding out what a lot of us have found out from experience---staying friends with the ex, is solely in the ex's interest NOT YOURS. Let the games begin. Link to comment
MikNomis Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Good decision. Do not go back on your word and stick to your NC, even if she contacts you because the most you respond, you're going to be writing another one of these threads several days later. Link to comment
theface71 Posted February 24, 2012 Author Share Posted February 24, 2012 I am not giving her a chance to contact me. Just deleted her from my MSN Messenger and blocked her email and I got rid of my cell phone since she was the one that made me get it so she could contact me all the time when we were together (she never calls it now), there will be no way she will ever reach me again...I don't think she will ever again anyways but now I don't have to worry about it. Link to comment
eternalsunrise Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 I know you're hurting. I hope things get better for you. It's good you're going NC, for your own healing. One thing to notice about your own reactions to her is that they seem to be driven by the desire for more/rekindling. Your intensity isn't the kind of intensity that would be felt for a friend. I agree that it is best you go NC. Link to comment
eternalsunrise Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 I am not giving her a chance to contact me. Just deleted her from my MSN Messenger and blocked her email and I got rid of my cell phone since she was the one that made me get it so she could contact me all the time when we were together (she never calls it now), there will be no way she will ever reach me again...I don't think she will ever again anyways but now I don't have to worry about it. Good! That'll prevent you from having to be on guard wondering if she's gonna reach out. Link to comment
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